An Introduction To Heartfulness: How This Heart-Based Practice Can Help You Deal With Grief And Loss With Atul Patel

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When you lose a loved one, being able to live for them and for yourself is the best gift you can give to the departed. Mr. Atul Patel, a Heartfulness trainer, joins us on the show today to show us how we can use the practice of Heartfulness to learn the landscape of our inner body and use it as a way of honoring our departed loved ones. Mr. Patel gives us an introduction to Heartfulness and shows us the powerful ways in which it can transform our lives. Tune in and learn how to balance your inner self and learn to have peace and calmness as you go through this journey of widowhood.

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An Introduction To Heartfulness: How This Heart-Based Practice Can Help You Deal With Grief And Loss With Atul Patel

Our conversation is with Mr. Atul Patel. He is a Heartfulness trainer. This conversation will be very helpful for you as different people are struggling with depression. Different people are struggling with confusion, anxiety, and anger. Having an opportunity to learn how to work through all these different feelings in your body may prove helpful and be a very good coping skill. Learning the landscape of your inner body and being able to use that in a way to honor our loved ones and the gift of being able to live for them or for ourselves may prove helpful for you. Let’s get into the discussion now.

 

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Welcome to this episode with Mr. Atul Patel, a Heartfulness leader.

Thank you so much for having me here.

Atul became connected to me because as we go through this journey of grief, I know that there’s not one way to deal with it. Everyone has a different concept of this and a lot of things happen with the body as you go through grief. A very good friend of mine Ramish connected me to him, and the information that he will share with us, I think you will find helpful.

We live in a body that I know we don’t always know so much about how it works, and to be able to connect with other people and get a better perspective of the body that we live in, and how grief impacts our body and our energy is something that we often don’t look into because we live lives in our own little spectrum to be able to reach, connect, and find value in what other people have to share. Right now, we are at a point in our life where we are open to hearing things we may have never looked at before, but realize that it’s an opportunity to be able to learn, and he has something for us to learn.

Thank you, Tina. It was a nice welcoming message. I’m happy to be with you and I would rather say I’m honored to get this opportunity to share what we have to share in terms of what Heartfulness can offer. Losing a loved one and go getting through that experience is very central, and every one of us goes through it at some point. Our loved ones, the people around us, and especially our life partners are central to our existence.

Losing them or suddenly not having them as part of our life creates a huge vacuum and we get bewildered about how to handle that. You mentioned something about our bodies. Most of our experience in this world is through our body, our eyes, and our senses. A relationship is a major part through which we connect with each other also through the body, understand each other, listen to each other, and try to acknowledge the feeling of love and compassion for each other.

When this happens, when we suddenly don’t have our loved ones around us, our body does get confused. We don’t know what to do. We feel a lack of energy. We feel a lack of purpose in our life. If this experience happens in a traumatized way, then it creates an even much more tragic impact on us. Unfortunately, what happens is many of us as we have gone through this experience, repeat this experience mentally again and again. When we go through that experience mentally again, we are in a sense reliving that experience and the sadness and grief, that has affected us. Our brain, in a sense, reproduces those chemicals and tries to help us to cope with it.

In a sense, we are reliving that experience by having those chemicals produced. It creates a domino effect and makes us even intensify that experience. Now the question comes up, how do we make that experience, the space or grief, which is created in our heart, how do we transcend it? How do we handle that so that we make this experience and express our love for our loved ones in a much more transcending manner?

You mentioned if it’s in a trauma situation, then instantly, the idea is to continually play it back over and over in your mind, and neither of those things that we have control over. We don’t have control over the way our loved one passes. It increases the trauma and that shock that happens when a loved one passes, whether they have been sick for years and you know that their passing is intimate, or if it’s a car accident and someone knocks on your door. That instance shock of knowing that your loved one is no longer here, the brain is struggling. The body is trying to make sense of the world that keeps going on, and you are right there. That is crucial to understand how to manage that.

The body gets in shock mode. The brain doesn’t know how to handle it, and all of a sudden, at the mental plane, we are trying to figure out some life, which was something fulfilling, meaningful, or purposeful with our loved one, that relationship and experience we were going through. Now, suddenly, there is a dead end. There is a stop, and we don’t know what to do. We don’t know how to make sense of it. We don’t know how to go to the next level.

That’s where the yogi practices or Heartfulness meditation comes in very handy in terms of, “If you look at it this way, this could be a life-changing moment or a life-changing experience also.” When we understand the concept of how our mind and our body are responding to the experience we go through in the worldly affair and how this emotional experience is affecting our body, affecting us, then we somehow come up with and appreciate the framework, which I’m going to share with you in where meditation and the techniques of cleansing, which Heartfulness has been sharing plays a role. How can we make better use of it so that we can continue with our life journey and then have it in a more fulfilling towards?

I know you have a very extensive presentation. Before we get into that, I have a few questions. How did you get into Heartfulness?

I started Heartfulness when I was in the first year of my college. I was spending a lot of time reading the literature about yoga and meditation. It was somewhere around ’92. One of my neighbors saw me and he said, “If you are interested in this meditation, why are you reading a book? Why don’t you take a practical approach and practice something? I will take you to a trainer.” He took me to the trainer and he said, “Let’s practice.” He gave me a couple of meditation session one-on-one, and we call them individual settings. I took 3 or 4 sessions with him and he said, “Continue practicing,” and I used to go with him once a week. We used to have a one-on-one session once a week.

As I started practicing, I started feeling, realizing, and seeing the change in myself. Since I was in college, we had exams and stress. A lot of things were happening. After some time of experience, I realized that there was something in me changing. I then started reading literature. That’s when I realized that this is the path I want to continue. I want to practice this way further because it’s experiential and it’s practical. It’s a more and more tangible experience and I can transform myself through the practices. That’s how I got into it and I’m still here.

Do you connect with other people in sharing this as a trainer? What does that look like versus someone that’s not, and how many people do you train? How does that work?

I became a trainer somewhere around 2008. In Heartfulness, we have this beautiful technique of meditation. Along with it, it’s called cleansing. It helps us to remove inner emotional traumas, emotional experiences, or difficult emotions. As a trainer, I schedule one-on-one sessions with individuals and those who sign up for personal trainer, providing personalized sessions and one-on-one.

I also do a group session. We have a meditation center in Richmond, Virginia. We have meditation centers in several parts of the country, but I mainly focus on Richmond, Virginia where I’m located. We do conduct group sessions and workshops on different topics of yoga and meditation. That’s my role but in addition to that, Heartfulness has a unique technique of yogi transmission, which allows the mind to meditate to easily regulate itself.

Most of us, especially in this situation where our mind is going haywire and bewildered, if you ask a person to meditate, he or she cannot. We grapple with sadness and frustration. We get into this mode where we don’t have control of ourselves and we don’t know what we are doing. This is where Heartfulness sets apart itself in a unique way because we have two things happening to us. One is the setback. In this context, if we look at it, it creates a shock in our body and our mind. Emotional level, we are completely on a different plane in the lowest level of our emotional experience.

In that situation, we are not able to use our mental functions also properly. We cannot sit and think straight because we have so many things on our heads. This is where a trainer’s role comes into the picture, where a trainer would meditate with you. He would be able to transmit the higher energy so that you are able to balance yourselves very quickly.

You are able to meditate slowly and progressively, and he’s also able to remove the negative emotional effect from your system. That is what I do as a trainer. When I meditate or introduce someone, I help not only transmit but also remove the emotional memories which are associated with those experiences. In this case, it is the loss of a loved one in or anything else. That helps us to clear the space so that we can put things in perspective and then transcend that experience of what we are going through.

 

 

That is a big role we play as a trainer in Heartfulness, which you don’t see in any other system. At least I haven’t seen it where somebody spends hours and hours and meditates with you so that you are able to come up to a level. At this point, as a trainer, I still go out with another trainer and they meditate and they give me a session. There’s never an ending to it because you can continue to expand your consciousness as long as you can.

I was going to ask you that question because you are taking all that in. You have to have somebody to help you. It’s good to hear that is a progression. What is the path to becoming a trainer?

The only thing you need is to have the willingness to serve your fellow being and human beings around us. The way we encourage everyone is to first practice yourselves, intensify your own practice, and become an example, a role model for others, and how you have been progressing. When your heart calls you that, “I have benefited so much. I want to serve and help others as a trainer,” there is a training process we have. It takes about two years of intense training. You study the fundamentals and you do a practice. We have a training process. Once that’s completed, you become a trainer.

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Two more questions and we will get into the brief. Is Heartfulness connected to a particular religious faith or is it something independent?

Heartfulness has nothing to do with religion. It falls into more of a category or a next level. It’s called spirituality. Many people nowadays talk about spirituality and it has to do with personal practice. It’s individualized. When you look in the context of religion and spirituality, you ask a very good question. One of the things which always attracted me to Heartfulness is the Founder of Heartfulness has said, “Religion is a very valuable thing. It’s very important. It gives us the foundation of what is right and what is wrong. It gives us the idea and concept of God or even higher entity.”

Even if we don’t use the word, God, let’s say Higher Entity, Creator, Allah, or Jesus, the point is that religion gives us the foundation and fundamental value. We go to elementary school, and we learn how to read, write, and everything. When you transcend the religion, when religion ends, spirituality begins. When spirituality ends, reality begins. When reality ends, the real place begins.

There is continuous progression, we, as human beings, into our lives and into how we approach the higher level. That doesn’t mean I’m going to relieve my religion. If I’m in elementary school and I’m transcending going to a middle school or high school, I’m not quitting my elementary school. It’s not like I’m abandoning it.

I always say I belong to this school. We feel proud when we go to college and I say, “VCU or Virginia Tech, this is my college.” I always have that association. I never leave that, but I also have to go to another level and the next level. In our life experiences, spirituality is where Heartfulness takes us to and then continues. Heartfulness has a progressive pathway all the way toward bliss and higher levels.

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If I am interested in Heartfulness, how would I connect with you or how would I find out to be able to work with you?

If you are interested in Heartfulness, very simple. If you are reading this, you can send an email to you or me and I will connect with the trainer. I coordinate many trainers on the East Coast. I will be happy to assign a personal trainer. We do have a mobile app where you can download call Heartfulness, and in that also, you can digitally connect if you are not here in this country. There are places throughout the world. There is a URL called Heartspots.Heartfulness.org, and you can connect to the local trainer using that link. You can find the closest trainers around your area throughout the world, and they will connect with you. They will reach out to you and schedule sessions.

Thank you for mentioning that because the show right now is in eleven different countries. There are people reading around the world and that gives them some place to connect. You can email him directly or go to the website. I am not going to hold you up any longer. Let’s get into it.

I want to piggyback on the conversation about transcending and the experience of the loss of a loved one. I’m sure many of you can resonate and you already have a full understanding of what happens when you are going through that difficult time, when you have a certain vacuum in your life. When this happens in a certain way or something which you anticipate, nevertheless, it’s not easy to go through it. Rest aside like when you are alone, when you don’t have a community surrounding you, it becomes even more depressing. It becomes very tragic. Our bodies and minds don’t know how to process it.

It’s not like we have been taught how to do it. No college or no school teaches us. No parent teaches us. Our brain has no memory or no back background on how we are going to deal with it. It is no different from losing a toy. It’s 1 million times more than that. If I lose something and I can always recover, and I know how to recover.

We multiply that by 1 million times, and something which I cannot comprehend. It is something like that, and the question always comes up, “What do we do?” We ourselves ask a very natural question, “What do we do? How do I handle this? How do I process it?” I was going back to the topic of heartfulness and how I believe that this would totally change your understanding of the situation for you and how Heartfulness techniques can help.

There is a beautiful program Heartfulness has come up with. It’s called Care by Heartfulness, and when we go through a difficult time like this, some of the people who are also affected by a difficult disease like cancer or even their loved ones are going through a difficult experience. It’s not always that losing a loved one creates trauma. The loved one going through that difficult experience can also create trauma in us if one of our spouses, loved ones, fathers, or mothers goes through cancer.

Even my mother-in-law had a traumatic experience with an autoimmune disease, and she suffered for about 10 to 12 years on the bed, and she had to be treated like a baby every day. She would wake up the whole night and wouldn’t let anybody sleep. She stayed with us for about a year before they had another apartment.

I have seen it myself, how my father-in-law and my wife were going through it. Going through the regular job, but also seeing her day in and day out, suffering and not being able to do that. That feeling of helplessness was tremendous. If I would not have been going through meditation, my wife would not have been doing it. It would have been very next to impossible to go through it. Understanding the impact of experiences and how these techniques can help us to cope with them and also transcend them is useful.

It’s an individual journey because what you feel and what you experience, nobody other than you can resonate with because it’s your own personal thing. It’s very important to personalize what I already said. We take this as a personal individual journey. Utilize the tools, which I’m going to share with you. I can assure you that it will make a big difference in your outlook and perspective on what has happened to us and, if at all, God forbid, what may happen to anyone of us. It’s important and it’s very good to do that. The basics of it are how yoga explains the experiences we go through.

We talked about how most of our experiences we process through our bodies. In this world, whether we go to meet somebody new and we love them, or we hate them, or we have a good experience or bad experience. In a similar and expanded way, if we lose someone or if a loved one is affected by a spouse, those experiences, we connect with it.

What yoga says, these experiences create impressions and these created impressions are an effect of an experience. Whether negative or positive, in this case, it’s affecting us. The effect of those experiences is emotional memories. They are deposited into our bodies. Yoga says they are deposited and reside in our bodies. They reside in storehouses of chakras. Mainly, there are five chakras in the human body, and they begin within the chest area, and then there are a total of thirteen chakras through which we transcend our experiences and live a life of balance.

There is a chest area that articulates points 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5. Those are the point five chakras in the chest region. On the left side are the qualities of those chakras associated with it. Before we go there, I’m going to give you a very high-level overview. Maybe one of these days, we will go through the detailed anatomy of it. The Founder of Heartfulness has discovered many other chakras other than those five chakras. You can see that there are 13 different chakras represented in our bodies.

What defines a chakra?

Chakras are the concentrated knots or the energy centers in our bodies. When these energy centers are destabilized or unstable, our experience with the world or experiences of transcending is affected. It articulates a heart region, a mind region, and a central region. It is categorized into three different regions. The heart region is a region where all five chakras are, which we are going to talk about. Those five chakras deal with the duality of our life, the dual emotions, emotional experience, and the dual qualities of our life. This is the worldly experience. When we transcend the heart region, then we progress toward the next region called the mind region.

In the mind region, there are from 6 to 12. The majority of the chakras are there. We transcend that and then master it, and then go to the central region, which is the highest region. These are purely discoveries of Heartfulness founders and we progress our journey through them. Coming back to the heart region, they focus on our discussion where our experiences have something to do with these five chakras in the heart region.

When we are in the context of losing our loved ones or the experiences we feel on into life. If you look at the left side, it shows points 1, 2, 3, and 4, and each of the chakra or point, they are basically a similar naming convention I’m using. Alternatively, we can use either word chakra or a point. At point 1, the chakra or the point where all they experience emotional experiences or impressions related to worldly affairs are deposited.

It has an emotional quality. When that chakra is in full balance, we feel or demonstrate the quality of contentment. When that chakra is imbalanced, we experience the opposite quality. It’s natural. When you are not happy, you are sad. Whether you are happy or sad. It’s a world of duality. Either you are this way or this way because both are possible.

The possibility of intense contentment is there. The possibility of intense negativity or a desireful attitude toward life is there too. Instead of desire, you could say discontentment. When that chakra is in complete turbulence, it’s affected whether because of job, loss of job, worldly thing, loss of house, or we don’t have any security about it and you are constantly worried about it, then that chakra is imbalanced.

If you look at the second chakra, it has to do with our inner calmness. When that chakra is completely balanced, you feel intense calmness and peacefulness. If that is not there, you are restless and worried. You are not feeling anything. The color is also associated with it because you can see when you meditate, you will be able to identify the color. Some people see the color also when they meditate. When their chakra is in full balance, they are able to see the color.

I’m seeing all the colors and I’m thinking, when that loved one dies, it’s red everywhere. You are desiring something else. You are restless. Your fear, your anger, and your confusion, all of those are in that opposite state.

If you look at point chakra three, you are exactly right. Chakra three is the fire chakra, fire element, or fire of love. That chakra is associated with our relationship. Chakra three has more to do with our relationship with our loved ones or the people around us. When that chakra is affected, we are in complete irritation and affection. That affects the rest of the chakra too.

For chakra four, it has to do with courage. It’s a water point and it demonstrates the quality of courage when it’s in perfect balance, and when it’s an imbalance, we demonstrate the quality of fearfulness. If you look at it in this context and use this framework to understand, the fifth chakra on the way to the top talks about clarity and confusion.

When that chakra is imbalanced, we are in total confusion and lack awareness of what to do. We are in a sense of hallucination. We don’t know what’s going on. We project things because we are fearful. If you combine this and let things process this experience of the loss of a loved one, point three or chakra three is affected.

When that chakra is affected, we are more fearful. If the effect is intensified, you can notice, observe, and vouch that you are also fearful. If it is an extremely related concern or, “What am I going to do? What’s going to happen to my house? What’s going to happen to my house? How am I going to survive?” Point one is fully affected, too.

Point two is affected because you’re restless. Your calmness and peace of mind are gone. When all chakras are in a complete imbalance, your clarity is gone. It affects chakra five and you are confused. You don’t know what to do. This framework would help us to understand that when we go through it, it’s not just affecting one thing. It’s affecting the whole experience, all five chakras, and all entire existence.

Our first primary thing is the questions we ask, “What do we do? How do we handle it?” With that mind, with the disturbed, fearful, restless, and confused mind, we don’t see things with clarity. We are not able to process it and especially when we are alone. We don’t have any help or community support. We don’t have friends or family who can guide us from outside, and in this world, it’s hard.

The first priority becomes, “How do I balance my inner emotional landscape? It needs to be balanced. Balance of these chakras becomes very paramount for us in that situation so that we can put ourselves in a balanced emotional state so that we can figure out the next step to be done. Transcend this experience and make this a fulfilling experience in the sense that the people we loved who have a certain passion in their life, we want to make it memorable for them, and then find a purpose for them.

The message and the mission they were caring for, we can carry that mission to move forward. There are many things we can do which will come to our heart to give a tribute to them, and that will be the right tribute to them. They wouldn’t certainly want us to be in the turmoil state forever, but they would want us to have a meaningful and purposeful next step.

 

 

You made the term of making this a gift to them. That seems like such a wonderful way to honor our loved ones.

In this case, my mother-in-law also passed away. When we lose our loved ones, the relationship we had is not like there’s a dead end. It’s not like the end of the thing. It’s always going to be there. They are always going to be part of us, but what do they stand for and lived for, what were their last wishes, and how do we fulfill that? How do we make this our life?

At least we are here in this world. We could do something which they would have wished for. We can make the next stage of our life more purposeful by guiding it. I have seen many situations where many parents when losing their children, or many spouses when losing their loved ones, make it a mission for their life to help others whom they would have done it when they were here.

That clarity, confidence, and courage come slowly when we balance our inner landscape. We then transcend it and say, “Let me do this in the memory of that person who is not with me, but that memory is always going to be there with me.: We want to cherish those positive experiences. We want to keep that with us forever and then make our life more meaningful rather than continue to relive that experience in a traumatized way, which is our bodily action.

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It has nothing to do with our affection for that person. Our affection and love for that person are always positive, but the body’s response to that traumatic experience comes out of the fight or flight syndrome of our biology. In a sense, this experience helps us to transcend our love and take it to the next level.

We want to put things in perspective that whatever I’m going through, what I am experiencing, trauma or negative emotional experience, it is more of my bodily response to a survival instinct for fight or flight where my body, mind, and brain are trying to put things in perspective. Otherwise, if you set aside this, my relationship with my loved ones is more positive with love, reverence, compassion, and affection.

That is what I need to be reliving. I don’t have to relive that experience of trauma. I want to relive that experience, whether that person is physically with me or without me. That is not going to end. Love doesn’t have a physical beginning and end. Many times, we live in a binary world. We live in a Newtonian world. We think that everything has a beginning and an end. A relationship has no beginning and no end in that sense. It can go on and on. Even when we don’t have the body, we can still experience that affection. We want to be in that state. This is a moment for us to transcend.

Coming to terms with those things is exactly what I’m doing with this show. I am transcending from the pain of that trauma, and now in a place of leveraging those memories of compassion, contentment, calmness, courage, and clarity of mind to be able to be here and do this. I like how you said it takes time.

Getting to that place of being able to serve our fellow human beings is exactly what is taking place in this conversation we are having here. Reaching out to people that are in a traumatic state and looking for a way how to manage this and put themselves back in the order of their landscape. Thank you for saying that.

That’s exactly what you are doing and you are a great example of that. Instead of allowing the situation to make you a victim, you are changing the world. You are processing it in a much more transcendental way.

How do we get to do this? This is the goal. How do we get here?

The practical way of doing it is to connect with the trainer or download an app. Focus on the practices of meditation and cleansing. As you can see, this is a constellation of five chakras, which are in the heart. That’s why it’s called the heart region. In yoga, people are most familiar with the heart chakra, but this is a constellation of the same five chakras and therefore, we recommend meditating on the heart. The heart is our emotional manager and that’s why it’s called Heartfulness.

In every relationship and especially in this context we are talking about, the highest form of expression in a relationship is love. Love has everything to do with it. It’s business of the heart. When we meditate on the heart, the effect of the meditation, the highest form of expression, the love and compassion, which emerges from our heart is also spread throughout the body very naturally, because the heart is a pumping station for our blood too. The effect of meditation naturally spreads.

Another reason we meditate is heart is a central force for existence. Whatever life energy or life force we have is associated with the heart. When the person is dead or alive, we measure it by saying the heart is moving or stopping. When we meditate on the heart, we are in direct connection with the life energy. When we are connected with that life and life force, automatically, without putting much effort, we are able to notice the balance which is created in our hearts. We don’t have to put effort into one chakra or any specific chakra.

That is a geniusness of Heartfulness that we don’t have to worry about because we don’t have time to think about all this chakra and how to balance when we are in a difficult situation or in anything. It makes it complicated. Heartfulness in a genius way discovered that it is very automatic. All we have to do is to meditate on the heart. Since all the chakras are connected to our hearts, they automatically will be balanced.

The heart is the seat of love. That’s why you see the logo we have, “Advancing in Love.” We will advance in love through meditation on the heart. The technique is very simple, meditating on the heart and allowing ourselves to be absorbed in the love and the light in our heart. We recommend doing the morning meditation for about 20 to 30 minutes as much as you can.

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Now your heart is filled with love. Every experience, every engagement you are doing when you are out with the outside world, you are having that meditative state with a heart full of love with the balance and you are able to make the best out of that experience. In the evening, we recommend another technique called Heartfulness Cleansing or Cleaning. Some people call it detox.

This negative emotional impact or emotional memories are associated with it onto a landscape. You think of this as a whiteboard that has lots of red as you talked about. How do you wipe them off and transform this energy into a positive emotional experience or emotional energy? Cleansing allows us to do it. We sit comfortably at the end of the day, and we look into our hearts and observe. What’s happening to my heart? How do I feel now?

That’s the first step in self-awareness. Am I feeling fearful? Am I restless? You don’t have to itemize it but notice that there’s a lot of heaviness in my heart. A lot of complexity is built up in my heart because of one or the other experience. A lot of impurities and imbalances are in my heart. I can feel it. Many times, we feel suffocated. What do you do with it? In a cleansing technique, we remove that. With our willpower, with power-up suggestions, we visualize from head to tailbone. We go visualize on the backside that all these difficult emotions, negativities, and complexities are purged out from my back, from head to tailbone in the form of smoke and vapor.

The first step is we visualize it. Focus on the visualization using the power of intention, power of attention, and power of suggestion that all of them are leaving me permanently. We stay on that thought very firmly. We do this, look into our hearts, and remove them. As you do this, as I said before, Heartfulness is purely an experiential system. You will feel it. You will experience that sense of relief when an unwanted thing goes away. Imagine how bad we feel if we have constipation and we are not unable to go.

If you could relate to anything else, we can all relate to that. The idea of being self-aware when you were speaking about that piece, oftentimes people want to avoid the pain. They want to avoid the grief, but avoiding that is making it more constipated. I do this thing called Saturday Sit Down, and I talked about the relief of gas and having the pressure, but it’s still the same thing you are doing with the same area.

 

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If we cannot run away from this, we try to run away or put on a facade that we are feeling fine, and inside all of these things are happening, the body is stressed. We need to find some way to be able to be with reality. I’m having a challenge here. This is hard. I need to deal with this and get this out because if not, you are carrying that heaviness every day and never dealing with that. Thank you.

It’s a good point that you reminded me. I was talking to one of my friends days ago, and we were talking about the same thing. This has to do more with our biological responses. This is one of the fundamental reasons why we do substance abuse and why we get on the wrong path. When we are going through negative emotional turbulence since we don’t want to deal with it or for whatever reason, we don’t have a way to deal with it because nobody taught us. What do we do? I need to cope with it. My coping mechanism could be drinking, alcohol, drugs, or doing any negative things.

The reason is when I do those substances, it produces a chemical called dopamine in my brain. When I do it more, I want to do it more. The more I drink, the more it feels better because my brain is releasing chemicals. It has nothing to do with my loved ones or anybody else. It is my brain’s releasing chemicals as an act of trying to deal with that thing.

Is there a healthy way of doing it? Is that the right way of doing it? When we become self-aware of our emotions and understand that, “I am going through a tough time.” First is to acknowledge and accept that this is the hard part of the phase of my life. I am going through this now. I’m going to deal with the healthy way, the proper way, or the right way to do it. Like we say in Hurtfulness, correct thinking, right understanding, and honest approach to life.

I want to be honest with myself, honor myself, and say, “This is the need of my body. This is the need of my moment, and I want to do it in a healthy way. Let’s do it.” I don’t want to do substance abuse. This is not the right way to do it. I don’t want to hide my emotions and turn away from them. This technique of Heartfulness comes as a blessing because you are now removing what is unwanted, negativity, and heaviness. It allows more love to flourish in your heart.

The space in your heart is occupied by all negative emotions. That space is cleared so that now your heart can be an abode of love. Your heart can be filled with love for those whom you will have lost and those whom you are going to come into your life, too. Life without love and a heart without love would become a dungeon.

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This process not only helps me learn how to manage the loss I have had, but it prepares me and opens me up for new people to love, friends, and family or people that may enter my life because this is blocked. I don’t have the ability to open up to new relationships.

If my heart is stuffed with this thing, what about the people I already have? They are still with me, and I cannot do justice to them because I’m not capable of loving. I’m not capable of doing or showing any affection or compassion or even care. Imagine a situation when one of the spouses is gone and the children are still there with the remaining one. Those children experiencing the trauma need support. They need care also.

That was my experience. My husband passed. I was in shock. My children are in that same capacity. Us trying to figure that out. We came through that in prayer and with family members and different things to be able to come on the other side. There are often times that we don’t. As you said, someone that doesn’t have a community. We are in a world where a lot of people are dealing with the death of a loved one as we are dealing with the global pandemic COVID.

People are cut off. People are maybe not still connecting with other people, and they are trying to feel, “How do I deal with my loneliness? How do I deal with the loss of this loved one?” They are now becoming shut off and want to open their heart up to new experiences and relationships and not know how to get to that. Those are very good points.

You have lived it. You have seen with your own personal experience that children around us or anyone loved around us, even parents if we have around us. They cannot express it fully sometime because they have no idea what’s happening. From that point of view, it’s very important for us to get ourselves in the healthy proposition there.

Thank you. This has been a very good introduction. I know there’s so much more to this, but it will probably be our first place to have this conversation and an introduction for people to think about. Is this something that could help them as they are going through a very traumatic time? They know that Heartfulness exists and how to connect, at least have an initial conversation with someone because what they are doing now may not be working for them. They feel like they need something else, and this is an opportunity to see how to unstuck yourselves from the place that you are at and be able to let your heart be open to more that exists. Any closing comments or something you want to wrap up in this conversation?

Heartfulness has been tremendously powerful and beneficial. I have seen hundreds and hundreds of people in my life benefiting from it. I have personally not seen a person who has not felt anything out of the Heartfulness practice. I would request and urge everyone to try at least three months and see the transformative experience and journey it will take you to. You will never regret it. I can guarantee you that.

 

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The other thing that I would recommend is, you go out on the website and connect with a personal trainer. If you are in the Virginia area, please do visit us in Richmond. Meditate with us or practice with us, and this would be something a real gift to yourselves because of the emotional experiences, and something which are very personal to each one of us.

Sometimes between husband and wife, what they feel within their heart is only their love, even your children and everybody. Heartfulness in this landscape deals with that personal experience. We don’t share this every day with everybody else. This will help you to go through your personal spiritual journey and also if you are ready for it in the future. Thank you so much, again. Thank you for having me. I loved it and it was a very good conversation.

Thank you so much. Thank you also for the offer that we will continue this conversation to another part. I did hear that part.

Anytime. I’m open to it. Anytime you guys have time on the show, I will be happy to come.

Thank you so much.

Thank you, everybody.

Thank you for being here for this conversation. The idea of what meditation can do, starting the day in the morning and then resetting yourselves in the evening with cleansing was very informative. I want you to reach out. He’s going to provide some information as far as monthly virtual opportunities to be part of meditating and different ways that you can connect right in your own home.

You can connect with him and find out about the application to be able to learn about meditation, balancing your inner self, and learning to have peace and calmness. I am thankful for you to be here with us on this journey. I am sorry for the loved one that has caused you to be here, but my prayer and desire as you are part of this widowhood is that you know that you are not alone. We are here on this journey with you and want to encourage you to be able to live a life that you enjoy. Talk to you soon.

 

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About Atul Patel

WRT 16 | HeartfulnessAtul Patel, Dominion IT Employee for more than 20 years and Meditation Trainer for more than 14 Years. He lives in Richmond VA in a joint family with his parents and children.

Atul coordinates voluntary activity at Heartfulness Institute, a Non-Profit organization for North America. Atul is passionate about sharing Heartfulness Techniques to one and all. He is a certified trainer by Heartfulness Institute and toured several parts of the country conducting Meditation Seminars in person and online training sessions. He is responsible for the overall coordination for Heartfulness Corporate, Community, Government, and University across most parts of the east coast.

He is leading a team of about 40 Heartfulness Trainers and volunteers on the east coast. He has personally trained hundreds of individuals in Heartfulness Technics, conducted webinars and sessions in Colleges, Corporates, and communities. He is always eager to help and coach anyone at Dominion and establish emotional and mental wellbeing.

In his spare time, Atul reads a book, hikes, watch movies and goes for long drives. With his both children being HOKIES (yay !!) now, He intends to spare most of his spare time for community service and Mental Health of one and all.

Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach.

I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.

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