Stories Of A Double Widower With Isaac Byrd Jr. Part 1

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Isaac Byrd Jr. | Double Widower

It is indeed not easy to deal with grief after losing someone dear to you. But what if you have to go through the same pain twice? Joining me in this conversation is Isaac Byrd Jr., who opens up about what it is like to be a young double widower. We explore the lessons and realizations from his two partners who have transitioned to the next life, as well as the important role of music and faith in his grieving journey. Isaac also shares his experiences of going back into the dating game, especially now that it is mostly done through online applications.   I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.   Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: — Watch the episode here Listen to the episode here Stories Of A Double Widower With Isaac Byrd Jr. Part 1 Hello, Isaac, welcome to the widowhood.  Hello, thank you for having me, I appreciate it.  I will say, that even though this is Isaac being welcome to our widowhood, we’re having this conversation because he already was a member of the widowhood. I guess technically I was.  For sure and I want to tell you guys, I am intentionally always looking and stalking. Isaac can say that I stalked him down on TikTok and found him. I said, “Hi, how are you doing? Could you come to talk, please?”  It was cool. She’s not the creepy stalker.  They are out there just so everybody knows that. I said hello and I’m interested in this. This is our website. Please look at this and then get back to me. I didn’t come on hot and heavy real quick onto Isaac. It was just like, take a look. I will tell you, he was pleased with our website. He said, okay. I was very impressed with what you’re doing. I got to do it.    Music Background I appreciate that because there are not enough men in this space sharing to encourage. I see all of the equipment in the background. What’s up with that? What is that representing your life?  Music has been, always been in my life since I was a child. I started playing instruments probably around the age of three or four when I got my first set of drums and my first trumpet. Music has always been around. My father was a guitar player and singer. He also wrote. He was a good artist, he could draw very well. He has a lot of paintings in the house and different paintings around from artistry that he’s done over the years.  Musically, of course, my dad had everything to do with me getting involved in music, but one of the things he did was give up being a touring or aspiring musician to be a family man. He always played his guitars and all those different things. My first bass guitar is right back there and then one of my dad’s favorite guitars right here because I was recording earlier. My dad would be proud right now because he’s going on to glory and it’ll be two years on April 24, 2024. I was recording guitar today. It was funny because when I was a kid, I took a liking to the bass first.  He was teaching me guitar and I said, “I want to play bass.” He said, “You got to learn guitar first.” Somehow he agreed to teach me bass. I will play the guitar and I don’t do any of those on a stage. I usually do it in studio work stuff. I have enough to get by. I feel I have enough skill in guitar and bass to get by to do recordings because I know what I want typically. This is my studio area right now. This is what it is.   Father I have so many questions, I’m going to try to pace myself here. One, you mentioned your Dad, if I heard you correctly, stopped being on the road for his music to become a family man. What impact did that make on you?  I guess the impact was he was always here. My father was always involved in my life, whether that be in music, sports, and specifically when we did Boy Scouts and stuff like that. He was my Cub Scout leader. He was also my Scout Master at one point. I want to say that was before I was even born, that he made that decision to not pursue it heavily. I could see that impacted our lives in such a great way for myself and my sister. When I look at that, that sacrifice worked out for our family. My mom and he were together for 47 years.  When you think of relationships, were you looking to mimic what you saw your dad doing or what did you pull from his being a father to you and how you want to show up in life?  First of all, my dad was a Marine Corps veteran from Vietnam.  There are some complexities with that.  Yes, my father was a very intelligent man differently. We would consider Jim Crow, he was born in 1946 and grew up in Greenwood, South Carolina. My father came up through a very different world than I did. His being a father and a husband and my parents’ relationship was ultimately the first thing that modeled marriage for me. We do take and leave some things that we see for sure with our relationships or our family or our parents and stuff that.  However, his presence was an asset to me because a lot of people don’t get that. A lot of kids that I grew up with, even my age, still didn’t get having both parents …

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