Moving Forward After The Death Of My Husband With Lisa Staples

WRT 7 | Death Of My Husband

  In this episode, I am joined by my good friend Lisa Staples. We talk about the death of my husband Mark and the organic details of the day he passed away on March 11, 2017. Together, we delve into the beauty of a broken friendship being restored. Listen on as Lisa shares insights on how she felt being able to share and the healing she received from being a part of this inspiring discussion. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Moving Forward After The Death Of My Husband With Lisa Staples Friends Who Were There We are about to jump into a conversation with my friend, Lisa Staples. She was there the night my husband passed. She recants my emotional state where I was in things over the years. I hope this encourages you. I hope this lets you know that you are not alone and this transparency brings you hope.     In this episode, part of my hood is my girlfriend, Lisa Staples. I am excited because this girl is busy. She is a whole professional. She has given us her Saturday to be here to have this conversation. We are here with our tea. We are all snuggled up in our sweaters and sweatshirts because we are home. She knows how important it is to have this conversation and to be able to share. I want to say I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry for the person that you love that is no longer here, that has driven you to be part of this conversation. I want you to know you are not alone. There are other people here that you are now part of my hood and part of this conversation. Welcome. We have been talking to Jackson, but I have not seen you. Lisa, share a little bit about who Lisa is in your life. I’m West Indies born. I was born in Jamaica. I came to the US when I was sixteen years old. I have been here a little bit. I got married young and have two children. I have a son, who is Sean, and Chantel, my daughter, and her husband. They had their second baby. I’m a grandmother of two. I pride myself on the family. Near and dear to my heart is my mother. I married, and it is my second marriage to the love of my life, Erin Staple. People describe me as someone who is a friend, a sister, to the core of my heart, being a mom, and a wife. I pride myself on being me, being at the wedding, and you were there, Tina. Thank you for being a bridesmaid. Maya Angelou said it best. She said, “People forget what you said. People will forget what you have done, but they will never forget how you make them feel.” I always have that in the back of my mind, “How do people feel when they meet me?” I try to be a real authentic person with no pretense. I try not to pretend, even when it is to my detriment. That is why a lot of people, even in my professional space, are drawn to me because I will tell them the truth and keep it as real as possible. That is me. My girl had makeup for us. She had her hair fixed for us. I was like, “Is it her wedding?” After the wedding was done, which was fabulous. We had these high heels, and you guys walked in your comfortable shoes. You are all looking at us women like, “Why did you pick to wear that? We got to bring all our cute.” We walked into the wedding reception, and there was an announcement made that there were slippers. I’m like, “Did you say slippers? I don’t have to take off my high heel shoes and hold them in my head and act like I don’t see everybody with their gorgeous dress while barefooted.” It’s not just slippers. She had some good slippers. She had different sizes. The little bitty feet people didn’t have to be in the big people with the slipping up. I was like, “They cared.” They had shuttle bus service back and forth because you got a little party on at the wedding and trying to have no accidents. Did I say she got married in a castle? When I got the invitation, I was showing it to people. I was like, “This is my friend Lisa’s wedding. I thought music was going to come out on that thing.” I am glad to celebrate with you. Let me ask you something. How do we meet, and how do we become friends? What does that journey look like to you? We met at church. It is interesting because I remember when we walked in, we were new. We walked in for the first time. You are in leadership. You were sitting at the front of the church. We came in the normal, “Are you here for the first time?” We stood up. You came to us and said, “I’m Tina.” It was authentic and welcoming. The journey began there. We hit it off. I always saw you at first as being attributed that for you being in the service, but nonsense. What you see with you is what you get. I can appreciate that. As our relationship evolved throughout the years, I can say that is what I love the most. One of the things I love the most about you is what you see with you is what you get. You are genuinely authentic. If we were to look it up in the dictionary, your face would be like, “Hi, girl.” You were genuine from beginning to end. We are being real here. We had a hiccup in our relationship at one point. We were talking due to some transmission. Let me clarify that. We fell out. I …

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