A Story Of A Mother’s Love With Mary Parker

WRT Mary Parker | Mother’s Love

  Nothing can beat a mother’s love and care. They nurture you ever since you were little and look after you even as an adult. That’s why when they pass away, they leave a huge gap in our hearts. Joining me in this conversation is Mary Parker, who opens up about her grieving journey after her mom Cynthia died. She talks about her fondest memories with her mother, whom she considers her most trusted guide and confidante in life. Mary also explains how therapy, community support, and bravely facing tough conversations about death helped her get through grief much easier. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   A Story Of A Mother’s Love With Mary Parker My guest is Ms. Mary Parker. What I want you to know is Mary has been part of widowhood before it even was a thing. I am so grateful for her. When I was in the genesis of this process, meeting with people and thinking about how the show would go when we were dealing with grief during the holiday, Mary was in the background and so supportive. I am grateful to have a moment to put her in the forefront of this conversation and highlight her life, how beautiful she is, her journey, and her resilience.     I want to welcome Mary Parker officially to the forefront of the show. Thank you. You know you have been. When I was thinking, “I don’t know about this,” you were like, “I know you’re going to do it.” I was like, “Ugh.” I want to acknowledge that. I want that to be known. I know you’re a lot being in the background in administration and doing all that but shine, my star. Thank you. Sometimes, it pours out. I love when we’re able to jump into an idea, project, or a thought and figure out how to make it work. You are a master at doing that. This isn’t part of what we were going to talk about, but Mary is so skilled. She supports a lot of nonprofits. She jumps in and can make things flow. What I’ll say about dealing with grief during the holiday is that I had this idea of like, “We’re going to do this.” My sister Ilonka was like, “We’re going to do it.” We started looking at all the details in the background and I was like, “We are lost.” I called Mary and was like, “Do you know how to do this?” She was like, “Yeah.” It went from, “Let me help you out,” to, “Move out of the way. I got this under control. You need to go do your part over there.” She took control of everything. There is so much to do on the backside. The word zoom has a whole different meaning to me. I am beyond grateful. I can go on and on about that, but I’m going to switch it over. This is about Mary and sharing her journey. Where are you from originally? Virginia’s home. I was born and raised in Chesapeake. This has not always been home. Tell me about some of your travels. Where’d you go to undergrad? I went to Norfolk State University. My major was Sociology and Criminal Justice, which means I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I was supposed to go to college, so I went. What did you do after that? You graduated from Norfolk State. I graduated from Norfolk State. I graduated on May 5th of that year, and by May 21st, I was in South Africa with the Peace Corps. I was sixteen when I saw a Peace Corps commercial on TV. They used to have commercials then. It touched my soul. It made me realize that before I even had the words for it, that I was always interested in people, cultures, different environments, things I didn’t know, and the desire to explore. I knew at that point that I wanted to travel overseas and do it on the level of the people. I wanted to be in the community. It was not necessarily staying in the city, driving into the village, but being there with the folks, learning the language, trying to understand it that way, and being of service. Peace Corps gave me that. Plus, they paid for it all, so that was key. Do you recall what it was like when you first landed and first started? What was that like for you? I was wide open. I was twenty. I turned 21 after a month of being there. It was the first time I was away from home. This was your first time away from home and you went big. You didn’t go to another state. You said, “I’m out of here.” I crossed a body of water and entered into another continent. It was such a good example of what I was looking for and what was drawn to me as well. In that, I don’t really remember telling anyone my birthday was going to be in the middle of our training. I remember that the entire community that we were involved with and the other Peace Corps volunteers all came around to celebrate. Even some of the families in the community I was staying with, because they put you in host homes, surprised me that evening. That was an emotional connection that I hadn’t expected. Twenty-one is a significant age that causes a lot of things to shift in people’s perspective of life and everything. You turned 21 in …

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