Grief Journey

A Mother’s Love: Navigating Grief After Losing An Angel With Jessica Garland

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Jessica Garland | Mother’s Love

  Join us for a deeply moving episode as we explore the profound journey of Jessica Garland, whose life was forever changed by unimaginable tragedy. From the joys of motherhood to the depths of grief, Jessica bravely shares her story of love, loss, and resilience in the face of adversity. Jessica opens up about the loss of her daughter, Kendra. From the surprising discovery of Kendra’s pregnancy to her vibrant interests in basketball, dancing, and singing, Jessica paints a vivid picture of her beloved daughter’s life. However, tragedy strikes when Kendra is senselessly murdered at the age of 17 while working at the airport VIP lounge. Jessica courageously shares the harrowing details of the event and the profound impact it had on her and her family. Through her raw and heartfelt storytelling, Jessica navigates the complexities of grief, finding solace in unexpected sources of support while emphasizing the importance of self-care and cherishing every moment with loved ones. Despite her profound loss, Jessica finds comfort in her daughters’ achievements and offers invaluable advice on parenting, relationships, and finding gratitude amidst unimaginable pain. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   A Mother’s Love: Navigating Grief After Losing An Angel With Jessica Garland Our guest is Miss Jessica Garland, and she is going to share with us her journey and the loss of her daughter. There is a lot of conversation. There’s a lot of information to cover. Be prepared. Take notes. You will find yourself in this conversation, and you will be able to relate. Let’s get into the conversation now.     Our guest is Miss Jessica Garland. She is going to take us on a journey of her experience of grief. She is sharing the death of her daughter with us. I know from the conversations I’ve had with so many people that you also struggle with this type of grief. You are not alone. We are on this journey with you. If you are interested in sharing your journey, please email me at WidowhoodRealTalk@Gmail.com. If you have a particular topic you would like me to cover, please use that same email address. Let’s get into this conversation now. — Jessica, welcome to the show. Thank you for having me. Thank you for being here. Where are you currently in the world? I’m in Lawrenceville, Georgia. Are you from there originally? No, ma’am. I was raised in Connecticut. From Connecticut To Georgia That’s a bit of a way. How do we get from Connecticut to Georgia? This is a story. I had my daughter on April 12, 1990, and shortly after having her, I started getting these headaches that would not go away, that get worse and worse to the point that I wasn’t even able to lift my head off the pillow. That’s how bad the headaches were. I got rushed to the hospital because it had gotten so bad that my eyes had rolled back in my head. I was jaundiced from head to toe. They rushed me to the hospital. My father, who lived in Hartford, Connecticut, at the time, met me at the hospital to be able to help with the baby because she was a baby at the time. They told me that I had meningitis in my brain. They basically said to my father and to my mother, who came to the hospital, that if I lived, I would probably be a vegetable. Your daughter was born in April. When did this transpire, you said again? June of 1990. It was because I was in labor with her for 16 to 17 hours. They were thinking that we’re going to give you an epidural for the pain. I didn’t have any pain. “This is why we want you to get some rest so that when it comes time to push, you’ll have the energy to push.” I was like, “I’m young. I’m only twenty years old. I’m by myself.” Basically, the nurses, techs and staff were my birthing support team because I was by myself. I was technically coming out of being homeless, a week and a half shy of coming out of being homeless. I was in a shelter pregnant with her. The story is so complex. It’s weird. I didn’t find out. I found out that I was pregnant with her actually by accident. I was working at a company called Record World. I got offered a job in their advertising department in upstate New York, which was $100,000 a year. I was like, “I’m about to be making some money at a young age.” I’m a manager and district manager, so I was quickly moving up the chain. These are braids, but my hair was a little bit longer than what these braids are at the time. I washed my hair and conditioned it, and I’m getting ready for this interview. I put the curling iron in my hair, and it slid so fast out, and it popped back in my eye. What Black woman has not had an electrical burn in her eye? I’m telling you, I have. I can tell you when you said that, I remembered. It was right here, across my eye, across my eyebrow. I’m like, “There’s no amount of makeup that’s going to hide that because that burn is there.” You see a sister and go like, “I know how that happened.” We digress, but I couldn’t help the electrical burn. It happened so fast. Do you know how something jars you? My eye was so open. It burnt my eyelids. I was rushed to the hospital, and I was bodybuilding thing and working out very heavily. …

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From Pain To Purpose: Navigating Through The Grief Journey With Jason Clawson

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Jason Clawson | Grief Journey

  Prepare to embark on a deeply moving journey through the intricate landscape of grief, where pain transforms into purpose. In this episode, we unravel the deeply moving narrative of Jason Clawson, a licensed therapist with a heart-wrenching personal love story. In this emotionally charged conversation, Jason courageously opens up about the loss of his child diagnosed with anencephaly, the challenges of navigating infertility, and the heartbreaking journey of grief with his wife, Valerie, who later battled stage four colon cancer. Delving into the complexities of grief, Jason emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for men to share their experiences and the transformative power of vulnerability. From the heartbreak of leaving the hospital without their baby to the strength found in community support, Jason’s story unfolds with profound insights into healthy coping skills, the impact of significant life changes, and the remarkable healing journey that extends to helping others through The Hope Kit. This episode is a poignant exploration of personal grief, professional expertise, and the resilience found in community support—a testament to the strength that emerges from facing life’s most profound challenges. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   From Pain To Purpose: Navigating Through The Grief Journey With Jason Clawson Our guest is Mr. Jason Clawson. He has a journey to share with us. I want you to know that Jason is a licensed therapist, but he also has a love story to share with us. We take time to dip between Jason, a therapist, and Jason, the man you will grow from this conversation. I also encourage you, as you read this, to share with other people who are struggling and looking for a way to find out how not to be muted in their grief. This is a conversation that will help them and also your family or friends that you feel like you may be struggling with, giving them guidance on how to support you on your grief journey. Let’s get into this conversation.     Jason, welcome to the show. I’m excited to be here. Thank you so much. I’m excited to have you here, and not because of the circumstances, but oftentimes, we do not have enough men who are willing to share their journey. I am grateful for that because we’re trying to create a safe space for men. We have a support group that meets twice a month on the second Thursday of the month, 6:00 PM Eastern Time, exclusively for the men’s support groups. That part is important to our organization. Thank you for being here and with all that good energy. I’ve been resting up for it. Where are you in the world now? I’m located in Utah. How did you find yourself there? Were you born and raised there or relocated? I was born and raised here. My dad is from California. My mom is from Washington. They met at college here. They loved it so much that they stayed here. I’m still here. My kids and I love it here. This is what we call home. Do you live in the same hometown you grew up in or moved to a particular area? I live about ten minutes away from my house, where I was born and raised. It’s a circumstance of how close we are. It’s been a big blessing for us because I’ve been able to help my family. My mom and dad have been able to help me through my journey when my wife got sick with cancer. When my mom got cancer, I was able to reciprocate and give back to my dad and my mom the same energy and love they gave to me when I was going through my journey. I feel like a blessing to be close by and to be an instrument to help as well as to receive help from them. Loving Valerie I can relate to that. My mom and sister live next door. To me, family is everything. You mentioned your wife. What is her name? How did you guys meet? My wife is Valerie. We met through a friend of mine, her brother named Brad, and he wanted us to meet before we even met. He said, “When she gets off a mission for our church, you guys need to connect and meet.” We met, and I was like, “You are Brad’s sister.” She’s like, “You are Brad’s friend. It’s nice to meet you.” That was it. Where did it go from there? There wasn’t any synergy. A year later, we ran into each other. We got talking more. I took my chance. I found out how cool she was, and I said, “I’d like to do something with you.” She says, “I’ll get my brother and friends. We’ll get together.” I said, “I don’t want to hang out with your brother. I hang out with him all the time. I want to hang out with you.” We made plans for a date. Later that night, I got a message that said she had something, and she canceled the date. I was like, man, “Is this ever going to happen?” She said, “I didn’t want this to get back to my brother.” She called back and said, “Let’s go to lunch together.” We went to lunch. That’s where we got to know each other and connected. That’s where our relationship started. What year was that? That was about 2004 or 2005. How long did you guys date? Where did it go from there? We got married in December. We started …

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Losing Your Love Of Your Life By Accidental Overdose With Tawana Proctor-Robinson

WRT Tawana Proctor-Robinson | Accidental Overdose

  The shadows of a tragic event shall cast the beauty of love that radiates between you and your late hubsand. You will only feel the rhythm of life’s music until you learn to overcome the loss. In this episode, Tawana Proctor-Robinson recounts her life with her husband, Victor, and how he struggled with fentanyl, which led to an accidental overdose. As a drug dealer turned into a drug addict, Victor was a product of his environment and became his own demise. Tawana shares her insights on Victor’s struggles and what she learned along the way. Let’s join Tawana as she flips the pages into her story of Victor’s addiction, death, and their love and life together. Tune in to this episode today and indulge yourself with her wisdom and insights. Listen to the song Tawana and Victor created HERE.  Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here Listen to the podcast here Losing Your Love Of Your Life By Accidental Overdose With Tawana Proctor-Robinson My guest is Tawana Proctor-Robinson. She is one of the founding members of Widowhood Real Talk with Tina, our private Facebook group. She is so low-key and so quiet but so intentional. I want you to pay close attention to this conversation. If you have a loved one or maybe you are struggling with a drug addiction, pay attention to the words that she has to say. The journey that she’s been on and the wisdom that she is sharing will be life-changing for you. Let’s get into this conversation now. Tawana, welcome to the Widowhood. I guess it’s not welcome to the Widowhood because you’re already part of it. You’re part of our private group but welcome to this conversation. Thank you. Tawana is part of our private Facebook group and I am super glad to have her in our private group. She wanted to share her journey and I appreciate her for wanting to do that. Tawana, where are you from originally? I’m from Gary, Indiana, where I reside. You started in Gary. Where have you traveled and lived? What does that look like for you? I lived in Indianapolis, Indiana for 31 years, and then I moved back here to take care of my mom in November 2023. I have been hear back home for a year. What prompted you to move to Indianapolis? My first husband and I moved to Indianapolis to have a better life. How did you like Indianapolis? I loved Indianapolis. There was so much to do and easy to get around. I had to move back to take care of my mom. I knew I’d eventually probably move back to Gary, but I didn’t know when. Before you met your first husband, what were some things in your life or what were you doing? My first husband and I got married when I was eighteen, so I was in high school. Do you have some interests or any activities in high school? I was in the concert choir and gospel choir. I was in the marching band and concert band. I modeled for a modeling troupe at Horace Mann High School here in Gary, Indiana. I did a lot of things in high school. I did not know any of that about you. Tell me what type of modeling things you did. I modeled on our modeling troupe when we had fashion shows at school, and we modeled all types of fashion. Do you have any pictures of that? I don’t. This was before the era of taking pictures all the time and stuff. In a yearbook maybe or something like that? Maybe in the yearbooks. In my senior year, I didn’t take a lot of pictures in the yearbook. I only had my senior picture in there. You said marching band, what instrument did you play in the marching band? I was the first chair clarinet. Do you still play a clarinet or did you let that go? I don’t. I let it go after high school. I played for a couple of years after graduation because my band teacher asked me to come back and play for the seniors. I did that a couple of years after I graduated. After that, I haven’t picked up a clarinet. My oldest son and daughter both played clarinet in high school. You passed it on to your children. You still do have a love for music, if I recall correctly. I do. I love music. My late husband and I, Victor, recorded and wrote some songs and they’re actually on our YouTube pages. How did you meet your first husband? My first husband and I met a month after my daughter was born in June of 1990. We got married about 7 or 8 months after we met. How long were you guys married? We were married for about 4 or 5 years. Not very long. Long enough to have two sons. How old are the boys now? 31 and 29. Absolutely men. I was not born, so I should say that for sure. My 31-year-old will be 32 in January 2024. Do your children live in proximity to you? My daughter lives here in Gary with my two grandchildren. My oldest son lives in Philadelphia, and my youngest son lives in Bloomington, Indiana. Both of my sons graduated from Indiana University in Bloomington, Indiana, but my youngest son decided to stay and become a school teacher. He did that for several years after he graduated. There cannot be enough men in education. That is a field where people are needed. After the …

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Two Floors Above Grief: The Untold Story Of A Funeral Home Family With Kevin O’Connor

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  Life’s precious moments emerge from the dance between joy and grief, proving that even two floors above, we’re never alone. Join us on a heartfelt journey through the pages of life, grief, and the enduring bonds that shape us. Our special guest, Kevin O’Connor, former educator and author of the book “Two Floors Above the Grief,” shares the tales of growing up above a funeral home, offering a unique perspective on death, life, and the wisdom passed down from one generation to the next. Kevin explores the complexity of grief not only from the perspective of grieving families but also from the eyes of the funeral home director’s family. Through the experiences and valuable lessons he shares, Kevin shows how grief journey is not linear; it’s an ever-evolving process. Tune in now and remember that through life and loss, we are never truly alone. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Two Floors Above Grief: The Untold Story Of A Funeral Home Family With Kevin O’Connor Our conversation now is with Mr. Kevin O’Connor. He is the author of Two Floors Above Grief, and it’s like, “What is that about?” It’s not a self-help book. It’s not the steps of grief. This is a book that Kevin is sharing about his family and their experience of living above the funeral home. It’s unique. Let’s get into the conversation now.     Our guest is Mr. Kevin O’Connor, and I will let him introduce himself. My name is Kevin O’Connor. I’m the author of the book Two Floors Above Grief. I am thankful for this opportunity to be talking with Tina. We will talk more about the book and some of the premises of the book as we get into our discussion. Before we get into the book, which is still part of who you are, where are you from originally? I’m much more than the book, although the book is a memoir of my life. I live in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. I have been here since 2007. Before that, I was involved as a teacher and school principal in California, in the Bay Area and outside of Chicago, in McHenry County. I was a principal there for eighteen years. I then came here in 2007 after I retired from the Illinois system. I did some volunteer work and helped here and there, and before I knew it, by 2011 or 2010, I was working full-time for the school system again. I spent another 8 or 9 years working in the Department of Diversity in Broward County Public Schools in Fort Lauderdale. My job there was in the curriculum area, working on curriculum and support for LGBT students and families. I was also heavily involved with the writing and professional development for the family life and sexual health curriculum that had been provided to the students in Broward County Public Schools, but I retired there in 2020. That’s when I started, “Now is my time. Time to write this book I have been wanting to write,” but I worked in the Biden campaign first. After I retired in August 2020, I went right from there into working as a field organizer for the Biden-Harris campaign. At the start of 2021, I started to focus on giving the book some legs and getting going with the writing and things. That’s where I was and a little more about me and where I came from. There is so much there. I’m not quite sure where to jump in, but I want to be clear that he said near the Chicagoland area, which is different than being from Chicago. You are in Chicago. That gets back to the book a little bit. The location of the book is mostly set in a town called Elgin, Illinois, which is about 35 or 40 miles Northwest of Chicago, and that’s where my dad and my uncle operated their funeral home. My mother and her family had been longtime residents of that town back to my grandfather. My mother was raised there and she and my dad met in high school there in Elgin. I was very much a part of Elgin until I went to college back in Loyola, Chicago. I spent a year of those four years in Rome, Italy, at their campus in Rome. Eventually, being an educator in California for six years, I came back to the Elgin area in 1978 and I was employed in McHenry County. I worked in McHenry, Illinois, as a teacher, and then I worked in Cary, Illinois as a principal. I was also a principal in Mundelein, Illinois, which is in Lake County. These are all on the Northwest collar of Chicago, and that’s where I retired from in 2007. It was the school district in Cary, Illinois, and then I raised my family. I was married at the time with two kids. I raised my family in Crystal Lake and another town in that area. The cat over there. What’s the cat’s name? It’s a dog. It’s a chihuahua. Thanks for asking. It’s so small. She weighs about eleven pounds. She’s bundled up in her blanket there. She keeps me company quite a bit, and she had her morning walk, which we have to temper a little bit because now she has a congestive heart condition. She takes a lot of meds. We know her time is coming, but we don’t know when. Who knows? That’s part of what I talk about in the book. There is no schedule. We are doing …

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The Knight Of Positivity: How To Be A Positive Light To Life With Daniel Knight

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  When life gets tough, it’s easy to fall back into the dark areas of the room. But how can we be a positive light when life happens? The driving force behind Unicorn Universe, Daniel Knight, narrates how his father impacted his life, and when he heard his father transition to the other side, it took him long to experience grief. He also shares the birth of the Unicorn Universe and what it does in the community. Daniel also takes us into how to be a positive light because life isn’t always about unicorns and rainbows. If you want to be inspired to rise above the darkness and be a positive light, this episode is for you. So, why don’t you grab the reins and let’s gallop into the beautiful journey of Daniel today?  Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide Email: daniel@unicornuniverse.io Website: http://UnicornUniverse.io Social Links: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/10xunicorn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/10xUnicorn Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/10x_unicorn/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@10xUnicorn — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   The Knight Of Positivity: How To Be A Positive Light To Life With Daniel Knight Our guest in this episode is Mr. Daniel Knight. He is the owner of Unicorn Universe. What is that? That’s why you will want to tune in. You’ll want to hear Daniel’s story, his upbringing, and his life, and be inspired. Let’s get into the conversation now.     Our guest is Mr. Daniel Knight. Welcome, Daniel. Thank you so much for having me. Thank you for being here. It was a pretty good connection that we made. The conversation was good. I’m looking forward to this. I love that you said no topic is off the table, and that everything is to be discussed. There are a couple of different things that our community will find encouraging, inspiring, and a lot to hear. I’m looking forward to it. Daniel, what is the whole Unicorn Universe? We cannot not talk about it. I like to bring the brand out in as many ways as possible. You have a business. You want to get the name out there. Unicorn Universe is my business. I founded it with a few different people at the beginning of January 2021. We are all about making connections. We find out what people need and then we’ll make introductions to other people based on what we think will help them get to where they’re trying to go. We do that through our community. We have active members who come to our connection events. It’s all about trying to focus on who we can connect for each other that helps with whatever it is that we’re working on. An example of what that may look like or why. If I can scroll through the internet to find a particular person who’s an accountant or a person who’s a therapist or this or that, why would I want to come to the Unicorn Universe? Why would that be advantageous for me? When we talk about people that we bring into our community, it comes down to the type of person above all else. You can know that the people in our group are generally trustworthy people. They think in abundance. They are givers. They want to support other people. They want to collaborate with other people. That is our way of saying, “You can trust that the people in the Unicorn community are these kinds of people.” That, in addition to let’s say somebody needs marketing services. They launched a new product and they want to create a campaign. They’re looking for somebody to help with the marketing. A lot of the time, people will go and shop around and maybe even end up engaging with somebody for their services, and then not get what they expected or the services are subpar. Because we have some involvement from the introductions that we make to people, sometimes we’ll get involved in helping make sure things are going as expected. If it’s a company we’ve set up a partnership with, you can generally trust that they’re going to do what they said they’re going to do. We’re an extra layer of support for people. How did you come about the name Unicorn Universe? We knew we wanted to do something with unicorns because the group of us that started it were all unique and different in our own unicorn-type of way. We knew we wanted to do something fun so we went with Unicorn. We spent a couple of days figuring out what we wanted to do with the business and then we came up with the Universe because that supported what we were creating. The one reason why I wanted to have this conversation with you is that the show is often about people sharing their journey from the death of a loved one, but often out of that, people have to reinvent themselves. They have to maybe start up a business because we’re now in this virtual world where someone can take the skills that they’ve given to an employer and now create their own business. Do you have people in the Unicorn Universe who assist people in doing something like that? Specifically, with those kinds of transitions going from an employer relationship to a self-employed relationship. That would be maybe someone who does coaching because someone may have not been speaking out a lot. Someone may need an accountant because they have those needs. They may need to have a legal advice. They may need to understand how to network. I could see how being part of your Universe could be a step into …

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The Journey To Living As A Healthy And Happy Widow With Sammie Hawkins

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  Losing a life partner can be a very difficult and lonely experience. You lose every bit of hope because a future without them is unimaginable. But life moves forward, and with it, we learn how to cope. More than that, this episode’s guest is letting others in on her own experience so they can find inspiration to start living life again, healthy and happy. Sammie Hawkins joins Tina Fornwald to take us on her journey on how she seeks the path to becoming a healthy and happy widow. She explains the impact of the life-changing event that happened to her life, losing her spouse, and how she managed to face it. Sammie’s experience led her to share hope with people traversing the path of grief and loss. Take this moment with Sammie to find the light in the dark we are dealing with because the future is brighter when we learn to move forward. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   The Journey To Living As A Healthy And Happy Widow With Sammie Hawkins In this episode, our guest is Ms. Sammie Hawkins from the UK. She has stayed up late to have this conversation because she knows how important it is. I am looking forward and Sammie is too to hearing your feedback. Connect with her on TikTok. She will share that. We will get right into this conversation. Welcome, Sammie. Tina, thanks for inviting me. Thank you for saying yes. Sammie, how are you doing? Not too bad. We are in the middle of a heat wave in the UK so that’s been quite a challenge because we don’t have air-conditioning here so it’s quite warm. We do in some places so in our cars and restaurants but not in our houses. If I’m looking a bit pink, it’s because it’s 90 degrees. Is it 90 degrees at 10:00 PM?     Probably not outside but in my house probably. I wanted to make sure we brought that up because I want them to know how committed you were to this conversation. You did not let that stop you. You are over there looking flawless and happy. I want them to appreciate your commitment to this conversation. That’s why I wanted to make sure to say that. Thank you. I wouldn’t have missed it. How long have you been in the UK? Are you born and raised there? Where other places have you lived? Just in different parts of the UK. Where in the UK do you live? I live in the midlands I suppose it would be called. It’s in the middle part of the country. I’m quite close to Oxford and Cambridge. If you follow the Formula One Grand Prix, I’m extremely close to the Silverstone racing circuit. We have the Mercedes team in our town. Lewis Hamilton’s team is based in our town so lots of people in our town work for Mercedes. I have mostly lived around this area for most of my life. What places have you traveled to in the world? I traveled a lot to the States. I have a timeshare at Disney World so I’m a bit of a Disney freak. I love the whole positivity and ethos of Disney. It is my happy place. I have been there lots of times. I traveled to lots of other places in the States as well and also to Thailand and lots of places in Europe. There are so many places that I can’t even remember. Thailand is probably the most exotic place I have been to. I loved Thailand. It was a very big place. Interestingly, you mentioned Disney World. I went to Disney World with my mom and my sister. It’s a happy place. We went to another amusement park and it seemed that people were not as happy and jovial as they were at Disney in other different places. It’s a big thing about it being the happiest place on earth but I’m starting to believe it in comparison to other people. I’m going to start taking note of that. I do know a lot of people who like to travel to Disney. It’s interesting to be in the UK and have a timeshare to go to Disney World. That’s a serious commitment right there to the happiest place. My son has probably been eighteen times there. That’s the joy of being part of the Disney Vacation Club where we can go whenever we want. It makes it much more affordable to go. You have intrigued me. What is part of the Disney Vacation Club? It’s a Disney timeshare so you buy into it. We bought into it at a time when the pound was very strong against the dollar. We got a bit of a bargain. You get to go to Disney every year for years if you want to. We love it. That was one of the best things I got out of my divorce, which will probably come up later. In my first marriage, I got to keep the Disney timeshare. That was a great thing. Before getting married, what was your life look like? We will get into the first marriage to your late husband. I had a very happy childhood. I went to a convent school, which I loved even though I’m not Catholic. I went on to a boarding school for the last few years. We did what we call A levels. I’m not quite sure what the equivalent is in the USA. I went to York University, which was amazing. I …

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Being Intentional Through The Grief Journey With Teressa Green-Clark

WRT 17 | Intentional Through The Grief

  It can be challenging to be honest about our grief, sometimes. But once you let go of the fear that holds you back from really confronting what grief looks like, it can make the journey much more bearable. Teressa Green-Clark is someone who is not afraid of being honest about her grief. And instead of getting stuck there, she is surviving it day by day. In this episode, she joins Tina Fornwald to talk about her grief journey and why being intentional has helped her along the way. Teressa lost her husband, her sweet face, in 2020. Since then, she has been putting one foot in front of the other, being intentional about confronting her grief. She shares how she is coping with the help of her husband’s words and the Bible. Teressa also talks about letting her grief out through therapy and writing, imparting her own experience to help others in the same journey. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Being Intentional Through The Grief Journey With Teressa Green-Clark We are about to have a conversation with Ms. Teressa Green-Clark. She has been a widow for years but she is so intentional. You are going to enjoy this conversation and be inspired. Let’s get into it.     Hello, Teressa. How are you? I’m good. Yourself? I’m good. Welcome to the show. Thank you. I’m glad to be here. I am glad to see you. Tell me, Teressa, what gives you hope? What gives me hope is being able to get through my daily activities despite the grief journey that I’m going through and the pain that sometimes I feel and getting through my day-to-day activities, knowing that I survived today and I can see tomorrow. You said that thing right because you’re surviving the grief journey that you’re on. What I hear is you’re not allowing yourself to get stuck there. You’re trying to survive this. It is a journey. Day by day, not being afraid to be honest about how you feel is one of the things that is so inspiring to me. When I see some of your posts, you are low-key and high-key educating people about what it’s like to deal with somebody that’s grieving and being honest to say, “Don’t get it twisted because I made it to work or I’m living that I’m not hurting even though I could be smiling. I could be smiling one moment and I could be missing a beautiful face another moment.” That’s okay because that’s what grief looks like. You mentioned grieving. Whom are you grieving? Tell us the story of that love. I’m grieving my husband, Willis Clark III. It’s different without him. I met him through a friend. We met in the early part of 2015. It wasn’t long before he knew that he wanted to make me his wife. How long is not long? Probably about a year. We gave ourselves a year of trial and became friends first. What stood out to me when I met him was when he called me on the phone. Most guys want your number so they can get to know you and probably sleep with you but he wasn’t that guy and I felt it. He was like, “What do you like to do? I’m a family guy. I like to do this and that.” We exchange things we like to do. He said, “I want to do some more talking and conversating with you but before, can I ask you something? Can I pray with you?” I was like, “Prayers are always in order.” He was like, “I like that.” He prayed with me. We prayed. Before we got off the phone, we prayed again. That was something from day one until death did us part. We will not start our day out without praying together and we will not end it without praying together.   On the first phone, he said, “Can I pray with you?” Talk about setting the atmosphere. Talk about expectations being risen. Where did you go from there? How long did you talk before you saw each other again? He lived here in Illinois and I was still in Mississippi going to school. I graduated in December 2015. We met at the top of 2015. We talked and conversated daily for 2 and 3 times a day, checking on each other. We became friends before we became anything else. Mind you, he was a widower. He made it his business to let me know, “I’m a widower,” and how long he and his wife have been married. I respected that. Back to us, we talked, conversated, and got to know each other. My sister is another person whom I’m grieving, Ms. Bessie Tinsley. I lost her in October 2022. Her birthday is April 10th. I was coming to visit her birthday party. That was going to be the first time we ever saw each other eye-wise. We talked on the phone but that was going to be our first time seeing each other. That was 4 or 5 months after the talk on the phone. When you spoke the first time, you had never met in person. We have never met in person. You’ve been talking for five months over the phone. When I told him that my sister was having a party up there and that I was going to come to it, he said, “We can have our first date if that’s okay.” I said, “I’m going to do the little family thing. Later, …

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