Honoring Our Furry Friends: A Guide To Coping With Pet Loss With Maribeth Decker, MS, MGA

WRT 39 | Pet Loss

  Love transcends the boundaries of time and death, reminding us that our pets’ spirits continue to shine brightly, guiding us with unwavering devotion. In this episode, Maribeth Decker, MS, MGA, the author of Peace in Passing: Comfort for Loving Humans During Animal Transitions, discusses the profound subject of pet loss and its impact on our lives. Discover the myths surrounding animal transitions, including the misconception that death ends the relationship. Maribeth’s experiences shed light on the idea that our pets’ personalities and love continue even after they’ve crossed the rainbow bridge. She explores the concept of saying goodbye to your beloved pet, navigating pet loss, and choosing your next companion. Maribeth offers an intimate and soul-nourishing exploration of the profound bonds we share with our animal companions and how we can find light and healing even in the shadow of loss. Join us on this transformative journey of love, loss, and enduring connection in the world of pet companionship. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Honoring Our Furry Friends: A Guide To Coping With Pet Loss With Maribeth Decker, MS, MGA Our guest is Ms. Maribeth Decker. Maribeth Decker is the Founder of SacredGrove.com, where people and pets heal and connect. She works with animal guardians who dearly love their animals and yet are facing tough animal issues. She uses her intuitive animal communication, medical institution, and energetic healing skills to address animals’ physical, emotional, and behavioral issues. Maribeth’s mission is to bring a greater depth of love, compassion, and comfort into the human-animal relationship. Her rich personal life experiences have enabled her to bring a wealth of heart-centered wisdom to her work with each client. Her unyielding intention is consistently bringing forth the maximum benefit for all connected in the most benevolent manner possible. Maribeth lives near the Potomac River in Alexandria, Virginia, with her husband, Charlie, dog Stella, Tibor, and cats Mac, Bunny, and Shadow. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Let’s get into the conversation now.       Maribeth, welcome to the show. I never left, so yes. I’m glad to be talking about it. You make a good point. Tell us how you never left. What does that mean? As we were talking about prior, we remembered my first husband’s 25th death anniversary, his passing. The emotions that came up were surprising to me. I thought, “25 years, come on.” It’s still there. There are still times when I feel sadness and I feel like, I’m not sure what the words are, but incompletions with us. That’s where I think that the relationship, however, you call it, lives on in a different way after they have left. There’s still stuff going on. Either it’s within you or maybe within them or both of you. It depends. Thank you for mentioning that, because it’s comforting for someone who has lost a spouse 25 years ago and to hear them say it still impacts you now. It does. I looked at my kids and they said they almost didn’t remember their dad. That’s hard to say. They are not being mean. They were 8 and 10 and it was a very tough experience. Thinking about what they also lost when he passed. You can’t make it pretty. You can’t make it like, “It was all for the greater good.” Maybe it was, but we still lived through it. What was your late husband’s name? Winston. How did you and Winston meet? We met in the Navy. You were in the Navy? Yeah. Thank you for your service. Thank us both, right? Thank you both for your service. I met him in a school in Memphis, Tennessee and I wasn’t sure, like, “Who is a smart aleck?” We got stationed together in Japan and that’s where the romance started. How long did you guys date before you got married? Probably a couple of years, I think. It has been a while. It seems like a lifetime ago. Thinking about being in the military, a previous marriage, but it’s interesting when you are there, it seems bigger than everything. As life continues to live on, those things, like, “I did all of that.” While we were in Japan, we figured out we wanted to do more and decided we would get married. I brought him back to Buffalo, New York, and January of 1981. Buffalo, this snow city. I’m sure he was like, “I must love her because what the heck are we doing?” Where was Winston from? He’s an American citizen. His mom was a Japanese citizen. His dad was a US and he grew up South of Tokyo. He spent time in the US so he could keep his US citizenship. When he was in Southern California, keeping his US citizenship, that’s when he joined the Navy. California, so that was warm. Very warm. Tokyo has cold weather too. It does too but it’s more like here in Virginia, where the winters aren’t 6 feet of snow. The whole state would be set down. I’m in Virginia, too. That would not work at all. We don’t have the infrastructure in Virginia to support that level of snow, so it would probably be a state of emergency. In Buffalo, it’s like, “Okay, get the tractors out, push all the stuff into the stadiums and kids get to school.” I grew up in Chicago, so I can relate to that. It was like, “Why are you not going to school?” “It’s because it got snowed,” I remember one time, my siblings …

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