How Do I Go Through Work While Grieving The Loss Of Someone Dear? With Jennifer Marriner

WRT 6 | Losing Someone

  The pain of losing someone is always hard to get over. Anybody’s world will never be the same again following the death of a family member or close friend. In today’s episode, Tina Fornwald’s close friend Jennifer Marriner narrates her story of working through the grief of losing people very dear to her. Jennifer and Tina have worked together at Tobyhanna Army Depot Pennsylvania. Tune in and learn how their friendship was a critical part of Tina’s journey of learning to live again, navigating grief at work, and having a safe space to be honest about what she was experiencing. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   How Do I Go Through Work While Grieving The Loss Of Someone Dear? With Jennifer Marriner Friends Who Were There Welcome to the show. We are on our first episode of the series, Friends That Were There with Me. You’re going to speak to my good friend Jennifer Marriner. My girlfriend Jennifer is in Macon, Georgia. What is on point is her heart, her love, her commitment to our friendship and her pushing through very difficult moments to be there for me. I hope you’re able to get something out of this conversation that will encourage you to leverage a friendship and be there for a friend that needs you. If you’re a widow or widower, open yourself up to your friends to be a part of your community and hood as you go through this difficult journey. Let’s get right into it.     We are kicking off the series, My Friends That Were There. For this first episode, we have my girlfriend Jennifer. I am so excited for her to be here and to be able to talk and share about some things that happened. I also want to say that I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry for what has driven you to have to be part of this conversation but I’m glad that we’re here so that you know that you are not alone. This is to be able to connect and know that other people are going through this journey. With that being said, let me introduce my girlfriend, Jennifer Marriner. Jennifer, where are you at? In Macon, Georgia. I am in Virginia. Some of my hood has moved around since we were in Pennsylvania but we get to have this conversation. I’m glad about that. Can you share a little bit about yourself? My name’s Jennifer Marriner and I am a single mom of two girls. They’re G and G, Grown and Gone. One of them lives in South Carolina with her Navy husband. That’s Kara and Shaun. The other one lives in New Mexico with her husband Jason. He’s in the Air Force. They have two little guys, Knox and Jameson, my grandsons. I like to call them the redheaded raptors because they’re full of boy energy. I’ve moved down to Georgia a few years ago to get a government job here at Warner Robins. I live here with my dog, Coasty and my cat Mackie. We are enjoying living in the South, enjoying better weather year-round, making new friends and loving life. I went for a hike. I saw those pictures that you posted. It looked fine. You talk about warmer weather. Where are the other places that you’ve lived? I was born and raised in California. I lived there for a little over eighteen years until my sophomore year in college when I moved up to Ashland, Oregon in Southern Oregon to go to college. My best friend and I wanted to go anywhere but California because we grew up there and were tired of it. She got into Oregon State and I got into Southern Oregon. We moved up to Oregon where I met the father of my girls, my ex-husband. We went to school there and probably were there for almost seven years. I lived there and then I moved to Pennsylvania. Did you have other families in Pennsylvania when you moved there? My mom and dad were there. They had moved out from California. During my freshman year in college in 1983, they moved to Bethel. They tried to run away from all their kids but I found them. How many children did your parents have? I was raised with two older brothers. Those were my oldest brother, Mark and my other brother Kurt. I like to say Kurt’s my twin. I was born on his third birthday. He wanted GI Joe but he got a Jennifer. Mark was five and a half years older than I was and two and a half years older than Kurt. Mark was killed in a motorcycle accident when he was 25 and I was 19 years old. I am sorry to have talked about that. How did your brother Mark’s passing impact you in your life? It changed it tremendously. My brother was not always the nicest. He was a big brother. He filled the role to a tee. He was tough on me and babysat me by putting me on my bed and telling me there were alligators under it so I wouldn’t get off the bed. My parents always let us say, “I love you because you’re my brother but I don’t like you right now.” When Mark died, it was 2 weeks after his 25th birthday. I had come down from Oregon from school. Kurt, me, a couple of Mark’s friends and his new girlfriend all took him out to brunch for his 25th birthday. I had seen him a few days before he passed. Also, he came to visit me at the family that I used to babysit for. I was down at their house at the end of college. He was growing up but it was tough. We talked about death. We talked about it to him, honestly. That helped out a lot. He wasn’t idolized and put on a …

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