Managing Grief

Grief, Therapy, And Transformation: Learning Effective Tools For Managing Grief With Brad Taylor

WRT 31 | Managing Grief

  Through therapy and self-care, we can transform the pain of grief into the power to heal, rediscover joy, and embrace life again. In this compelling episode, Brad Taylor discusses the effective tools for managing grief. Drawing from his extensive experience in therapy, he sheds light on the challenges faced by individuals dealing with profound sadness and grief. In this compassionate exchange, Brad and host Tina debunk common misconceptions surrounding mental health and explore the complexities of navigating the grieving process. Grief is a unique journey for each person. Tune in as Tina and Brad shed light on the journey through grief and offers guidance and hope to those who may be experiencing loss. Take a step towards healing and discover the transformative power of therapy, self-care, and embracing life again. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Grief, Therapy, And Transformation: Learning Effective Tools For Managing Grief With Brad Taylor My guest in this episode is Brad Taylor, who is a Clinical Director. He is going to allow us to see this depression, grief, and journey from a professional perspective. He brings information where, outside of the hood that I have given you personally, your hood can extend to the professionals that are assisting you, whether it is someone who encourages you, a therapist, a counselor, or a professional coach to be able to heal what other people can do to be part of your hood to help you along your journey in missing the person that you love. Let’s get right into the conversation.     My guest in this episode is Mr. Brad Taylor, the Clinical Director of the New Life Counseling Center. Welcome, Brad. Thank you. I’m honored to be here. Thank you. I am glad to have this opportunity. Up until this point, our conversations have been with my friend and my family, which is my hood. Also, in a broader scope of the hood, I’ve mentioned that I have spent time with a therapist, and most of that time was when I was in Pennsylvania. I’m unable to travel all the way there, but I was connected with Mr. Brad Taylor. It is being able to have him come to this forum, share what that conversation would look like, provide also a spectrum outside of grief that I’m familiar with, and be able to bring that in a different way. I’m glad to have you here. Thank you. I’m excited to be here, Tina. Brad, tell us a little bit about yourself. My name is Brad Taylor. I am the owner of the New Life Counseling Center. We are an outpatient mental health and substance abuse treatment center in Virginia Beach, Virginia. We were established in 2006. We provide services to citizens of Virginia Beach and the surrounding localities. Those services include everything from substance abuse counseling to mental health counseling and pretty much anything that may be connected to those types of services. I know that this show is dealing with grief and, unfortunately, dealing with substance abuse addictions, specifically. I often come across clients who are experiencing some type of grief due to overdose and higher rates of suicide by either family members or people that they know. Unfortunately, it has become a common occurrence for us to have clients that we provide services to who are experiencing grief. I’m excited to be able to talk about this subject because I’m certain that it’s going to be able to resonate and help so many people who may be going through it, struggling, and looking for some way to move forward in their lives. If I’m hearing you correctly, you’re saying that people that come to you, the original part may be because of substance abuse, but as you start unpacking their situation, you find out that the origin of that may have been from their grief. It’s very normal. Unfortunately, I have to keep saying that word because it’s not something that we want any of our clients to experience in their lives. We do an assessment of everyone coming in. It amazes me the number of people that when we are asking about past traumas and things that may be relevant to why they have the diagnosis or why they are having the struggles in life that they have, that’s a very common experience that many of them had. They may have had some type of loss in their life, and a lot of them turn to drugs to cope with that loss as a way of dealing with the emotional pain that comes with losing somebody in your life. It’s not only that in a vacuum because a lot of these clients also have a lot of other things that, in many ways, complicate grief. Some of them may come in organically with some mental health things that get exacerbated when they have the loss. You throw the substance use and addictions on there, and then that makes the grief and these other issues more intense. Often, unfortunately as well, a lot of them have gotten themselves in some type of legal trouble. Here at New Life, I would say 90% of our referrals and clients are people who are mandated. It means they’re on probation or parole. They may be linked up with Child Protective Services, have been court-ordered to be here, an employer might have sent them here, or along those lines. When they come to our services, we do a thorough evaluation. We try to treat the whole person. Unfortunately, as part of us …

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Moving Forward After The Death Of My Husband With Lisa Staples

WRT 7 | Death Of My Husband

  In this episode, I am joined by my good friend Lisa Staples. We talk about the death of my husband Mark and the organic details of the day he passed away on March 11, 2017. Together, we delve into the beauty of a broken friendship being restored. Listen on as Lisa shares insights on how she felt being able to share and the healing she received from being a part of this inspiring discussion. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Moving Forward After The Death Of My Husband With Lisa Staples Friends Who Were There We are about to jump into a conversation with my friend, Lisa Staples. She was there the night my husband passed. She recants my emotional state where I was in things over the years. I hope this encourages you. I hope this lets you know that you are not alone and this transparency brings you hope.     In this episode, part of my hood is my girlfriend, Lisa Staples. I am excited because this girl is busy. She is a whole professional. She has given us her Saturday to be here to have this conversation. We are here with our tea. We are all snuggled up in our sweaters and sweatshirts because we are home. She knows how important it is to have this conversation and to be able to share. I want to say I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry for the person that you love that is no longer here, that has driven you to be part of this conversation. I want you to know you are not alone. There are other people here that you are now part of my hood and part of this conversation. Welcome. We have been talking to Jackson, but I have not seen you. Lisa, share a little bit about who Lisa is in your life. I’m West Indies born. I was born in Jamaica. I came to the US when I was sixteen years old. I have been here a little bit. I got married young and have two children. I have a son, who is Sean, and Chantel, my daughter, and her husband. They had their second baby. I’m a grandmother of two. I pride myself on the family. Near and dear to my heart is my mother. I married, and it is my second marriage to the love of my life, Erin Staple. People describe me as someone who is a friend, a sister, to the core of my heart, being a mom, and a wife. I pride myself on being me, being at the wedding, and you were there, Tina. Thank you for being a bridesmaid. Maya Angelou said it best. She said, “People forget what you said. People will forget what you have done, but they will never forget how you make them feel.” I always have that in the back of my mind, “How do people feel when they meet me?” I try to be a real authentic person with no pretense. I try not to pretend, even when it is to my detriment. That is why a lot of people, even in my professional space, are drawn to me because I will tell them the truth and keep it as real as possible. That is me. My girl had makeup for us. She had her hair fixed for us. I was like, “Is it her wedding?” After the wedding was done, which was fabulous. We had these high heels, and you guys walked in your comfortable shoes. You are all looking at us women like, “Why did you pick to wear that? We got to bring all our cute.” We walked into the wedding reception, and there was an announcement made that there were slippers. I’m like, “Did you say slippers? I don’t have to take off my high heel shoes and hold them in my head and act like I don’t see everybody with their gorgeous dress while barefooted.” It’s not just slippers. She had some good slippers. She had different sizes. The little bitty feet people didn’t have to be in the big people with the slipping up. I was like, “They cared.” They had shuttle bus service back and forth because you got a little party on at the wedding and trying to have no accidents. Did I say she got married in a castle? When I got the invitation, I was showing it to people. I was like, “This is my friend Lisa’s wedding. I thought music was going to come out on that thing.” I am glad to celebrate with you. Let me ask you something. How do we meet, and how do we become friends? What does that journey look like to you? We met at church. It is interesting because I remember when we walked in, we were new. We walked in for the first time. You are in leadership. You were sitting at the front of the church. We came in the normal, “Are you here for the first time?” We stood up. You came to us and said, “I’m Tina.” It was authentic and welcoming. The journey began there. We hit it off. I always saw you at first as being attributed that for you being in the service, but nonsense. What you see with you is what you get. I can appreciate that. As our relationship evolved throughout the years, I can say that is what I love the most. One of the things I love the most about you is what you see with you is what you get. You are genuinely authentic. If we were to look it up in the dictionary, your face would be like, “Hi, girl.” You were genuine from beginning to end. We are being real here. We had a hiccup in our relationship at one point. We were talking due to some transmission. Let me clarify that. We fell out. I …

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