The Miss-Wife Crisis: A Widower’s Tale Of Love, Loss, And Resilience With Martin Owens

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  In the realm of widowhood, men silently navigate the labyrinth of grief, their strength often veiled by societal expectations. Empower their stories of loss and resilience to reveal healing transcends gender and anyone can rise from the ashes. In today’s riveting conversation, we have a special guest joining us, Mr. Martin Owens. We stumbled upon Martin’s poignant story on TikTok and knew immediately that his journey deserved to be shared. It’s essential to create a space where men can openly share their experiences and emotions to feel validated, supported, and empowered, especially in a society where their struggles often remain invisible and ignored. As the episode unfolds, Martin embarks on a profound exploration of his journey alongside his late wife, Tanya. Martin opens up about the intricacies of his grief and shares how his widowhood journey went. This heartfelt conversation proves to be the longest and most profound one yet in the history of the Widowhood Real Talk Podcast. By allowing a male perspective on grief to grace the airwaves, Martin brings a unique dimension to the discussion. His journey sheds light on the often untold stories of widowers. It is an episode that will leave you with a newfound understanding of the complexities of grief and the resilience of the human spirit. Don’t miss it.   Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide   Email: MTACincorp@gmail.com Facebook: MTAC – More Than A Conqueror Inc. 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Now, you’re about to hear from Mr. Martin Owens. He’s going to share with us his journey and his wife, Tonya. Let’s get into the conversation.     Our guest is Mr. Martin Owens. How are you? I’m good. Welcome. I want to say that there are not enough men out here sharing their journey. I saw Martin sharing his story on TikTok and reached out to him. I asked him if he would be interested in sharing his journey here on the show. I am excited that he said yes, and I’m excited for all the men that are going to hear his journey, and women too. We need to have more of the men out there sharing because sometimes they’re silently suffering. We want an opportunity for that healing and encouragement to come. Thank you so much. I always joke about it. Anytime you give me a chance to talk about my wife, even if it’s the tough times, I’ll take the opportunity. Tell me what gives you hope these days. My purpose. One thing I realized from the time she passed is she didn’t leave me without purpose. I knew I had a purpose. When she passed, I knew to a degree what that purpose was in terms of finishing her book that she had started and writing the second book, which is her second battle of cancer, then writing a grief book, and eventually writing our life stories combined. I know that much purpose because our marriage had a lot of purpose in it. It was sharing how our marriage was and different things. I don’t even know what God has for me in the future. I know there’s a lot there. Your wife’s name is? Tonya. Tell us a little bit about this love story that you would write from when you guys met. We want all of the tea. We don’t want a short version. We want the first date, when you were nervous, how you met, everything. The funny thing is we met online. We met on BlackPlanet.com, which was interesting because before I met her, I was dating a lot and I used that word loosely.   This is an adult conversation. You’re telling us to read between the lines with that. You read all around those lines. Yes and amen to all of it. When we met back in 2004, online dating was not that much. She wanted us to keep it a secret in terms of how we met. She’s like, “Let’s say we met at a business meeting or business mixer.” There was some truth to it because I had a Black page called Philly Fix It. I was doing handyman stuff and she had a page also. She does event coordination and stuff like that. There was some truth to that, but we kept it quiet. Our promise was either our 50th anniversary or on our deathbed when we finally tell the truth. When she hit hospice, I was like, “I have to finally tell the truth now.” She just smiled about it. Who would’ve ever thought from that what would come out of us meeting like that? I’ll be honest, it wasn’t a love-at-first-sight thing. It was an interest at first sight. She found me cute enough, but she was also smart. She didn’t …

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