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Rev. Dr. Moses Asamoah, Jr. On The Power Of Faith Over Grief

WRT 27 | Grief

  Grief pushes us to hit our lowest points. We tend to keep to ourselves, refuse to open to other people, and ultimately, get angry at God. However, those in the middle of their grief fail to see that in their most sorrowful moments, God does not abandon them. He guides them back to their feet.   In this episode, I speak with Rev. Dr. Moses Asamoah, Jr. of the Living Destiny Church. He shares his experiences treating people not only from the illness of the body but also the scars in their hearts. Rev. Dr. Moses talks about the powerful role of keeping the faith and letting God work in our lives to overcome grief. He also explains why getting professional counseling or undergoing therapy is highly advisable for grieving individuals – and why it is actually biblical.   Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach.   I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.    Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Rev. Dr. Moses Asamoah, Jr. On The Power Of Faith Over Grief In this episode, we are in my place of worship and we’re going to be speaking with my pastor, Pastor Moses Asamoah at Living Destiny Church. I want to say thank you for joining and being part of this conversation. Also, I am sorry for the person that you have lost that’s driven you to this discussion. I am hopeful that this conversation will encourage and inspire you. We’re going to speak about losing your faith in the process of grief, how to deal with people that are trying to rush you through, the idea of therapy, a counselor and what that looks like in the Christian faith. Let’s jump right into the conversation.     We are at the place where I worship. Pastor Moses Asamoah, welcome. Thank you for having me. Thank you for being here. Pastor Moses, tell us a little bit about yourself. I’m originally from Ghana, West Africa. I’ve been in the US for many years. I came here when I was fifteen and I’ve been here since. I planted this church years ago and it’s been great in the City of Norfolk. I’m having fun. That’s a short version. Tell me about fifteen-year-old Moses coming to America. Fifteen-year-old Moses came with the excitement and the vision of being a medical doctor, a Neurosurgeon. I came and went to high school at T.C. Williams High School in Alexandria, Virginia. After graduation, I was accepted into the Ohio State University but I didn’t have cash. I had to take a year off and work at Staples. They called that gap year. Yes, I did that. I saved a lot of money and then went to Mary Washington College in Fredericksburg. I majored in Chemistry. In my last year, I got the call for ministry. I came down to Virginia Beach to Regent University to get my Master’s in Divinity and Organizational Leadership. What was the struggle like in Staples of this young man that came from Africa, thinking you were going to be a doctor? You did not understand all the dynamics of that. What were some of your thoughts at that point? It was difficult because all my friends from high school were in college. They are talking about how exciting and fun it is. Here I am talking about cleaning up in hour five, mopping things and saying, “Where is my father?” If my natural father was here, he would’ve paid my bills and made my schools covered but here I am. I couldn’t pay for school so I had to work. “Why am I in this land? I want to go back. It makes no sense.” It was difficult but it was good. That was what I did. I learned how to buy my clothes and the computers I needed for college. Things like that were beneficial in my life. Just going through it as a 15 or 16-year-old is not comfortable and fun. Knowing you could have gone home and your dad would’ve covered everything, what made you stay here? It was a better opportunity. The educational system here was way better than back home. At that time, there were about three universities in Ghana. Imagine all the highest schools competing for three. I did well in school but I would’ve been very competitive about the opportunities I get in this country with the hands-on. Technology was way greater than I would’ve been there. You come in here and you’re going to be a doctor. How does this get switched up? The first thing was in my first year of Mary Washington College, God tells me, “You are going to be a doctor of people’s hearts, not a doctor of people’s bodies.” How do you know it was God telling you that for you? How are you able to pivot your entire life and know it’s God giving you that direction? I’ve worked with him for a while so I knew his voice through his word. It was distinct from mine. It wasn’t my plan at all. It wasn’t in there. When he told me about my first year, I buried it. I kept on with Chemistry. I kept on working at nursing homes, volunteering and building up my resume to go there but then it was my senior year. You’re at the end of this program so you’re one step closer. I’ve begun all my applications and done my campus tour. I narrowed it down to a PharmD, a Doctor of Pharmacy and an MBA. I found the perfect school that did both together. I was going …

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Dealing With Grief Through Faith With My Eldest Sister Denise R. Beckom

WRT 5 | Eldest Sister

  The grief caused by losing a loved one is one of the heaviest burdens anyone will have to carry in life. In this conversation with my eldest sister Denise R. Beckom, she shares how her faith and deep connection with God allowed her to manage grief. As we wrap up our Family Series, we talk about her steadfast support to me after my husband passed away. Denise also opens up on how faith impacts how she looks at death, sharing her experiences after losing her beloved grandmother and a very close cousin. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Dealing With Grief Through Faith With My Eldest Sister Denise R. Beckom Family Series We are wrapping up the family series and going to have a conversation with my older sister, Denise. My sister is so amazing and I’m glad that she allowed this opportunity to share her experience being with me when my husband passed and other experiences that she’s had with death and being a person and living in this world. You are going to enjoy the conversation. She has some great nuggets, advice, and things that you will find helpful and also inspiring and encouraging. Let’s get right into the conversation.     We are wrapping up the family series and my guest is my oldest sister, all of our oldest sister, Denise Beckom. How are you doing, Tina? Good. If you could share a little bit about yourself with our readers. My name is Denise and I am Tina’s eldest sister. We share the same father. I am a retired teacher. I live in Chicago and yeah, that’s me. There’s so much more. She’s holding back. Things you like doing, like the place, about the things you’ve done since you retired. You’ve been jet-setting, girl. Tina is not my only sibling and her siblings. I have another set of siblings on my mom’s side and my siblings are all over the country. I am the only sibling of seven, of which I have two sets and I’m the only one that lives in Chicago of all my siblings. It’s funny that I now have two siblings in Dallas, one on each side, which is funny. I have one brother also who is also the youngest sibling on each side, which is also an anomaly. I have taught middle school reading and social studies and have written several grants which were targeted toward struggling readers, pretty much taught in the African-American community for a large number of my years of teaching. After that, I went to a school where it was more multicultural and I’m okay either way, children or children for me. What I like to do in my spare time and mostly enjoy is going to New York to see Broadway plays, eating at New York restaurants, and walking downtown Manhattan. That is so much fun to me. The other thing that I do when I’m here in Chicago is to volunteer at the theaters that are in the Black community as an usher or in whatever capacity they may need me. I am an advocate of sibling bonds. I did not grow up with Tina and her siblings, but when I became of age to start driving, I sought them out because siblings are important to me and I wanted to bring all of them in, whether we had the same dad, same mom, or whatever. They’re my siblings. Thank you. That’s something I wanted you to share about. If you recall how you sought me out in some of those first interactions and what that looked like or what you recall. There are six years between Tina and me. When I started driving at 16 and probably by the time around 17, I’m venturing out past two blocks that my mother said for me to go and come right back. Now I’m venturing out on my own and between where we lived and where Tina and my dad and her siblings and mom live, I don’t know, it’s probably a good twenty-minute drive. I can only “sneak” over there because I’m still a new driver. When there was someplace that I was supposed to be going and I could go, I figured out how to zig-zag away and try to cut down on some of the time. My initial interaction with Tina probably began when she was in about eighth grade. I’m trying to think about that. I remember one of our first interactions as it is, unfortunately, for colored girls, was around the hair. Tina wanted a perm and her people weren’t necessarily sending her to get a perm, so I came over. I think she had bought the perm herself. I bought it with me or whatever. That was our first interaction. I came over and I put a perm in her hair. Was it the Dark and Lovely box? Yes, it was. That was around the time they had products that were specifically for African-American. Either I brought it or she went and bought it. That began a lifelong sisterhood and friendship going back to the place. What was the place I went to with you? Was it New York or where did we go? We went to New York. One of my colleagues’ daughter is an actress. I love the idea of “jet setting.” I have always told my friend and her daughter that wherever she is at a play, I will come. She was in a play in New York and at that time Tina was living in Pennsylvania, which was two hours from New York. She came in. We stayed on the New Jersey side, which was our second round of staying in New Jersey together because we had started this thing of trying to have a sibling trip. On our first sibling trip, we went to New York. I remember the whole thing. We went to New York and we …

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