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The Five Widows Club: Stories Of Love, Loss, And Living Again

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | The Five Widows Club

  Grief changes everything, but storytelling can help us find our way back to ourselves. Dr. Tina Fornwald opens her heart to share the journey behind The Five Widows Club, her upcoming book that explores love, loss, and the raw reality of grief. Drawing from her own story of widowhood and the collective experiences of five women—Monique, Carmen, Ava, Trish, and Joyce—Tina reveals how storytelling helps us see ourselves in others’ pain and find light in the darkness. Through these women’s intertwined paths, she reflects on what it means to grieve honestly, love deeply, and continue living with hope. More than a book, The Five Widows Club is a testament to community, compassion, and the power of sharing our stories so no one has to heal alone. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: Psychology Today Suicide Hotlines and Prevention Resources Around the World. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here The Five Widows Club: Stories Of Love, Loss, And Living Again Voices Of Widowhood: Healing Through The Holiday Unveiling The Five Widows Club: A Deep Dive Into Grief and Healing Last week, you heard that I wrote a book, and I know you want more details and a little bit of information that I shared last week. This conversation is the deep dive into The Five Widows Club. You are going to enjoy this conversation. If you have more questions that I didn’t answer, please email me so I can give you the rest of the tea. Let’s get into this conversation now. — Widowhood, I promised you monologue conversations, and here’s one that I owe you. Last week, in my conversation with Romana, she mentioned that I have written a book. Our conversation is to give you some more details on the book, my how, my why, and yada yada. I have notes here, so pretending like these are you asking me questions, but some of these came from conversations that I had with the advanced readers. Number one, what inspired me to write The Five Widows Club? I lost my husband. My husband Mark died on March 11, 2017, and my world was altered forever. I was in the military for 21 years. I have survived breast cancer. Oftentimes, when I hear books speaking to these different topics, it’s very clinical, or it’s so high in the sky. Everybody’s happy, and no one’s living the real reality. I felt like that type of story needed to be shared with the Widowhood. There are resources. There are clinical books, but a story. A story that you can relate to, a story that you could share with family and friends, that they could read, that book in some way, understand how you are experiencing and what you are going through. I am pretty certain that when you read The Five Widows Club, you will see yourself in these whittles and you will say, “I am seen. My story is validated, and what I’m going through is real.” Meet the Widows: Monique, Carmen, Ava, Trish, and Joyce’s Journeys This is not a happy-go-lucky, everyone-ends-up-like-life-is-ending for so many of us. It is continuing. It is still going on. These stories are real. They are gritty. They are raw. They are happy. They are crying. They are everything that we experience in this widowhood journey. Who are the women in this story, and how did they shape their journey? I’m going to go over what I have here, which is a summary of the book, and then give you some information on each of the widows. When the unthinkable happens and their worlds fall apart, five women from very different walks of life find themselves in the same grief support group, united not by choice, but by loss. What begins as an awkward circle of strangers slowly transforms into a sacred space of honesty, healing, and unexpected sisterhood. Meet Monique, Carmen, Ava, Trish, and Joyce, five widows, navigating a jagged terrain of grief. Each woman carries a story, a secret, a weight she never expected to bear. Through shared silence, passes of stones, and reluctant cups of tea, they confront love, loss, and the truth that healing isn’t linear, but it is possible. Raw, poetic, anchoring real life. The Five Widows Club doesn’t sanitize grief. It holds space forward for the forgotten voices, for the private aches, and for the moment you whisper, “I’m still here.” Monique, the perfectionist who found how to breathe. A boutique owner, a checklist queen, always in control until the morning she found Darnell’s body. She didn’t cry at the funeral. She made sure the jazz band played his favorite and smiled through the condolences like a hostess. Behind closed doors, she crumbled in her stilettos on the living room floor. Monique’s journey from performance to presence, from pretending to participation, she’s learning that being strong doesn’t mean being silent. “I burned the dinner again, but I still ate it, and I laughed because he would have teased me.” Allow me to read something. The fact that this is my first printed copy. As you can see, there are a lot of tabs. There’s a lot of editing that I’m making right now. I’m recording this. My goal is to finish going through all of the edits and then clean it up on my soft copy. I have an editor to whom I’m sending it. We have a timeline. From there, I’m going to move forward to publishing. The goal is to have the book in print and available for our event, Hope Grows Here, on May 16th, 2026, here in Norfolk, Virginia. Hope Grows Here is a 60s theme event because, yes, we are celebrating my 60th birthday.

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Share Your Story: The Healing Power Of Writing With Romana Hasenöhrl

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Romana Hasenöhrl | Share Your Story

   Learning to share your story after loss can feel daunting—but it’s also one of the most powerful ways to heal. Writing coach Romana Hasenöhrl joins Dr. Tina Fornwald to explore how creative expression helps us navigate grief, remember our loved ones, and rediscover joy. Through her own experience of losing her grandmother, Romana found comfort in writing, eventually transforming her pain into purpose by helping others find their voices. Together, they discuss the emotional release that comes from storytelling, why joy and sorrow can coexist, and how sharing your story can bring light, connection, and meaning back into your life. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: Psychology Today Suicide Hotlines and Prevention Resources Around the World. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Share Your Story: The Healing Power Of Writing With Romana Hasenöhrl Voices Of Widowhood: Healing Through The Holidays Finding Joy & Healing: Navigating Grief And The Holidays Has grief told you that you’re not allowed to be happy, you’re not allowed to laugh, and you’re not allowed to have purpose anymore? Our conversation with Romana, a writing coach, is going to blow past those negative myths. We’re going to talk about how you are allowed to be happy. At the same time, you’re allowed to cry. You’re allowed to have purpose. You’re allowed to miss your loved one. The duality of those is not a choice between one or the other. Let’s get into this conversation now.       Romana, welcome to the Widowhood. Thanks for having me. I’m so happy to be on your show. Thank you. When you hear “Welcome to the Widowhood,” what’s the invisible ticker tape that goes across your head, thinking about this community and having this conversation? One of my best friends is Marie Alessi, and you’re connected already. I know what she’s doing, and I have quite positive feelings. I have to tell the truth. If this conversation had been years ago, I would be like, “What?” The more you get into the topic and talk to people, the better you understand what it means. Where are you located? I’m in Salzburg, Austria, which is The Sound of Music city. Thank you. I am glad that you were able to join this series, Voices of Widowhood: Healing through the Holidays. This conversation is intended, knowing that the holidays and grief are not good partners. They can be very difficult. You mentioned that years ago, this conversation would have been different for you. Can you share what’s happened in that five-year timeline? Why does it make it different? First of all, I got to know Marie. She’s working with widows in Sydney, Australia, and not only widows, but with the topic of grief in general. We met via the internet, through Facebook. She saw my name. “She’s Austrian, too.” I got to write her some lines. We got in contact. In 2021, my grandma died. I grew up with her. I never expected that this would hit me so hard. My grandma was a very happy and lucky person. She was 94. I went into those childhood feelings and behavior. I yelled out, “You promised me you would get to 100. Now you died at 94.” I was devastated. I felt out of my body, watching myself acting. I’ve never had that before. After two or three months, I called Marie and said, “Is that normal?” In my family, it’s not normal to talk about death, grief, what comes after, and how to behave. There’s nothing. That’s like a white landscape. I got into that conversation on what’s normal and why it’s not necessary to act normal because you are an individual. You’re grieving. You’re dealing with it, and especially with the holidays. That’s your individual phase. My granny died in September. When Christmas was coming up, I always spent Christmas with her. That was a hard time. I was very glad I had someone who guided me, like you guide people in those situations. The Power Of Community: Finding Solace In Shared Grief Thank you for sharing that. I understand, and I know from you, working with Marie, that all grief is the same. At the same time, grief is different, depending on the relationship. I know a lot of people who are tuning in to this conversation may have lost their spouse. By you losing your grandmother, it sounds as if it’s giving you a concept of how profound and more extreme a loss could be of losing their spouse, someone that they’ve mended their life together with and done those different things. Speaking with Marie, having that community, but being in a family where that was not permitted or allowed, how did that make you feel to be someplace that you could talk freely about your grandmother and the grief that you were experiencing? For me, there was a big release. It is allowed to cry. In my family, it was like, “She got to 94. What are you crying about?” This is unbelievable for me. It is allowed to cry. It is allowed to share. There were people in the group. I was invited to join a group that had lost their spouse and had lost their kids. We all shared what our feelings are, how we think the future will be, how hard it is, or how we might make it a little bit easier, first of all, by sharing. As I’m a writer, also in writing. For me, it was that clue to write it down. Maybe someday, a story will come up with all the thoughts. Maybe a novel, or maybe not, but keep on writing. This was very important for me as

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Here With You: Navigating Grief As A Family With Kellie Kaminskas

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Kellie Kaminskas | Here With You

  Journey through love, loss, and healing with the heartwarming children’s book Here With You. Join Kellie Kaminskas, the author, as she shares her journey as a widow and how she found solace in writing a book to help children understand grief. Her son, who lost his father at a tender age, played a crucial role in the creation of this book. Together, they’ve found healing through the process, and their journey is sure to resonate with you. Kellie talks about self-publishing challenges, the need for support, and the positive response from readers who relate to her work. Let Kellie’s words inspire you as she shares her moving story of love, loss, and the power of storytelling. Kellie’s book: Title: Here With You Publish Date: July 15 2024 Trade Paperback ISBN: 979-8-218-38222-3 Ebook ASIN: B0CW1JBSC2 Format: Trade Paperback and Digital Available for purchase: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Powell’s, Apple Books, etc. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Here With You: Navigating Grief As A Family With Kellie Kaminskas Welcome To The Widowhood Our guest, Kellie, has written a book titled Here With You. It is about the journey of healing through grief. It helps children understand that although their loved one may be gone, they are still here with you. Kellie is a passionate storyteller hailing from the beautiful state of Connecticut. She has honed her skills in crafting captivating tales that transport readers to new and familiar worlds. As a loving mother to a wonderful son and their furry companions, she draws inspiration from the joys and challenges of parenthood. Her relatable story and heartfelt narrative resonate with readers of all ages. Kellie is an emerging author and speaker, available for virtual or in-person visits to schools, libraries, and events. Let’s get into this conversation. Kellie, welcome to the Widowhood. Thank you so much for having me. Thank you to the Widowhood. What comes to your mind when you hear, “Welcome to the Widowhood?” What was your first thought? It’s been a journey. I’m about almost eight years into being a widow. Sometimes, the word feels like a four-letter one, depending on the mood. I have heard this and I will repeat this. The club sucks, but the members are amazing. That concept of eight years, what does that look like eight years later for you? I want to preface it with the idea people go, “It’s been eight years. Haven’t you just?”     Yeah. I think I’ve really turned a corner, honestly, emotionally, for myself. I think I was angry for a very long time based on how he had passed away. I’ve been in the mode of self-care and a lot of forgiveness in the last year. That says a lot. Thank you for sharing that. I don’t want to get into the details, but for someone who is just going to read this and they have just lost their husband this year, can you remember what that looked like for you? Yeah. It was probably the worst time of my life. Honestly, at the same time, such a blur that you don’t really remember the first year. You’re surviving at that point. That’s important to know because I am going into my eighth year, and people often see where I’m now mentally. I try my best to say, “This is not what ground zero looks like.” Please do not think that this is what I looked like when he left this world. If you were to talk to younger Kellie, what would you tell her based on what you’ve learned over these years? To give myself so much more grace than I actually did. I think I just hit the ground running, and I was really hard on myself for a long time. Those are some of the misinformation, about staying busy, being strong for other people, “This’ll be okay,” “Just let time pass.” I want to say that I found none of those were adequate or accurate at all. Grief had a little suitcase and she was like, “You got to stay busy? Let me get on. Let me come with you. When you’re tired and exhausted, I will open up the picnic basket, and we can get together.” Let me put on a song for you that you don’t want to hear while you’re driving to go start your day. Being a widow, and you have children too? I do. I have a son. How old was your son when his father left this world? He had just turned one. That puts a different dynamic to this than most people imagine. When they think of a widow, one, they’re thinking of someone older, and then the idea of someone younger with children. Have you found a community of other people who have younger children? In the sense of raising him by myself? No. Just a community with other women who are widowed with young children? I don’t know anyone. I have several people I can connect you with if you are interested. This journey has connected me. I know a widow who was actually pregnant when her husband passed. I have another widow who has seven children. She and her husband had a ministry, serving seven, and unfortunately, she’s one of several others. What area are you located in? I’m in Connecticut. Here With You These people are virtual. I will reach out to them and connect you with them because I think community is very helpful. Your son was one. The basis of our conversation is really regarding this book. I knew talking about this book without talking about your journey wouldn’t serve anyone

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