Unconditional Love

The Life Of A Servant: A Hospice Chaplain’s Journey With Shenaz Halverson

WRT 44 | Hospice Chaplain

  In our grief journey, we need someone to meet us where we are and to love us unconditionally. But as a person transitioning into the spirit realm, we also need that spiritual and emotional support throughout the end-of-life journey. In this episode, as a Chaplain, Shenaz Halverson brings light into what a Hospice Chaplain does and how her grief helped her serve people with unconditional love. She also shares how she became a Hospice Chaplain. As she guides individuals and provides comfort and solace, Shenaz still sees herself continuing what she does. Let’s join Shenaz on her amazing journey as a Hospice Chaplain by tuning in to this episode today. Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   The Life Of A Servant: A Hospice Chaplain’s Journey With Shenaz Halverson My conversation is with Shey. She is a chaplain. The perspective in which she brings is a little bit different because she represents the people that are in the room with you as your loved ones are transitioning into the space that is comforting you after the death of a loved one. She and I met at Regent University. I know that her conversation to be able to see the other side of what a chaplain’s life looks like, how they’re trained, who they are, and how they feel, will provide comfort maybe for someone whose loved one will transition, or maybe people that were there for you and have a concept of who they were as an individual, not just as they were serving you. Let’s get into the conversation now.     My guest is my friend Shey, but Chaplain Shey to the world. Thank you so much for having me. My name is Shey and I am a chaplain. I work at Bristol Hospice. I’m their chaplain and I’m also the volunteer coordinator. I’m excited to be here. Thank you. Those are a lot of different words, but before we get into all professional Shey, who is Shey as a person? I am married. On Tuesday, it will be for two years. I’m super excited. My husband is on active duty. He is now in Oceana. He is the last command. What branch? He’s with the Navy. We have two children. Our son, Elijah is 10 and our daughter, Skylar is about to be 9. I’m a mom, I’m a wife. I’m also a daughter. I have a mom. I lost my dad six years ago. I have an older sister, two younger brothers, and a lot of nieces and nephews. Where are you from originally? I’m originally from Minnesota. How did you and your husband meet? It’s a funny story. He’s a twin and I was best friends with his sister. We met in eighth grade, but he was the annoying brother. I was friends with her. Fast forward to we’re in college now. I was living with her and a bunch of other girls. We had a house that we all lived in. I was dating a couple of guys and she said that I should date her brother. I said, “That’s gross. That’s your brother. I don’t think so.” He lived here in Virginia while I was in Minnesota. Fast forward, we went on a date. It went well. We got married. You all didn’t go on one date and then got married. How long did you date before that? Six months. How did you know him well enough for six months to say yes? We knew each other. We had a history and I just knew. I always said that I would never be with someone in the military. I also said that I’d never do one of those, “Hi,” get married, and then they’re going to get shipped off. I did that. You did do both of them? I did both of them. Was he in the Navy when you guys got married? Yes. You got married and then he gets deployed? I’m the one who said, “Let’s get married before you leave.” That was my doing. I said, “Let’s get married.” We got married here in Virginia Beach because I told him I wanted a destination wedding. I wanted to be on the beach. He’s like, “I’m from Virginia Beach. I live on the beach.” I said, “That’s perfect.” It was myself and him, my parents and his parents. It was a nice intimate wedding on the beach during sunset. It’s a beautiful wedding you can ask for. We had a honeymoon right here. We stayed at one of the hotels here. We saw dolphins in the morning. It was fun. Where did you go to see the dolphins? Where was that? Virginia Beach. Right there on the strip. One of those hotels. He ships off and what do you do then? I went back home to Minnesota. My plan was to stay there the whole time. He was in and out during that timeframe. I was going to stay there for another whole year. However, he came back and he was going to be here for two months before he shipped out again. I moved here on October 31st. Did you know anybody? I knew people through Facebook. Her husband was on the same ship as mine. Let’s back up a little bit. When you say Facebook, those are Facebook groups related to that ship? No. It was a friend of a friend. My friend got married. She introduced me to her friend. Her friend knew another friend, and their friends were on the ship. It was

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Forever My Starlight! Forever My Wife! Forever My Love With Addison Drake, A Young Widower

WRT 19 | Young Widower

  How would you face a tragic tale? A story where Snow White finally sleeps and never wakes up. This is a tale where God plucks a beautiful flower and turns her into a star. Addison Drake, a young widower, recounts a heart-wrenching story from the day they meet until God snuffed out his wife’s breath and turned her into his starlight. TikTok became his outlet after the loss because he found none. While most widowers still have their kids or grandkids after losing their spouse, he finds no comfort when his beautiful flower left this world. Tune in to this heartbreaking episode and see how much courage Addison Drake has to swallow the apple of life.   How to connect with Addison: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drakers66 TikTok: @beyondstarlight2021   Thank you for viewing this post. I am not a licensed therapist or professional life coach. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Forever My Starlight! Forever My Wife! Forever My Love With Addison Drake, A Young Widower Welcome to this conversation with Addison. Addison and I met on TikTok. I am looking for the male voice in this conversation and that’s why I reached out to him. Let’s get into this conversation.     In this episode, our guest is Addison. It isn’t random. I wanted to have more men to have their voice in this conversation. When I saw Addison was so willing to share his story, it drew me to him to ask him to have this conversation. It may seem random for probably all the people that reach out to him but my desire was intentional to be able to have his voice be part of the widowhood. I am glad that he is here. Welcome, Addison. Thank you for having me. Tell us about you. Tell us about your wife. Share, please. I have been widowed for several years. I’m right in that weird middle. There’s not a specific one. I was technically 29 years old when my wife passed away. She passed a couple of months before my birthday and a little bit after her 30th. We were close together. I’m a normal guy. I work at non-emergency medical transport, which is wheelchair transportation of people from doctor’s appointments and things like that that don’t need ambulatory services. They need transport because most cars don’t fit wheelchair people. That’s a little bit about me as a person. As far as my wife, are you wanting to know how we met? Yes, and her name. My wife’s name is Brittany. Brittany Anne is her first and middle name but I referred to her as Starlight. That was her nickname. Only I knew that nickname until after she passed away and then I let it out that that was her nickname. Most of the time, people would hear me call her babe, honey or dear. It was normal pet names. She got that specific nickname from me the day that we first kissed. If I used that name, it was a serious moment. It’s not like, “You’re in trouble,” serious but, “This is an intimate thing and I need you to be paying attention to me,” type of thing. Before we got to Starlight, we had to have met. How did you and Brittany meet? Our meeting had to be a God thing because the church that we met at is off the beaten path. There are no big signs that say, “Come to this church. This is our service times.” It is a building on the back of a lady’s property. The church is called The Glory Barn. It’s off the beaten path. Usually, you’re invited out there or you hear about it through maybe Facebook or something. There’s no way of getting out there unless you know it’s there. I’ve been attending this church for a while. At this time, I was also traveling and speaking as an evangelist. I would be there for a time and then be gone traveling and doing other things and then come back. Interestingly enough, the church only does night services. It’s on Sunday nights only and Wednesday nights. That way, everybody else can go to another church on Sunday morning or other things like that. It’s night service only. She came in with a friend several months before we connected. At that time, I wasn’t looking for a wife, a girlfriend or any of that. I had put the dating game away from me. I was focused on being a minister and doing those other things. The very first time I met her, she was face down on the ground, having a moment bawling. She was having a church moment. I didn’t think much of it. I pushed a box of attention to her and moved on. I didn’t much care to know her name or anything. She was another churchgoer. I left the church for a couple of months to do other engagements. I came back one night and she was one of the very first people to greet me. She came up to me and said, “It’s so good to see you.” She hugged me. At that moment, for whatever reason when she said my name, everything else stopped. It was the whole-time-stood-still type of thing but almost in a literal sense. It was almost like everything else faded away for a split second. A light switch flipped inside of my soul. Something instantly changed within me. I had this overwhelming desire to know who she was. I didn’t have that with anybody else. I didn’t care about anybody else. When she said my name and hugged me, it was like something changed.

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Walk For Love 2025

Support grief awareness and Walk For Love in style. Proceeds help fund free grief support programs. Merchandise is available now, with new batches printing every 15 days — so order early to ensure you receive your items before the August kickoff on August 3,  2025

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- Order anytime — Bonfire prints new merchandise every 15 days

- First shipping window: Orders placed by July 11 ship between July 1–11

- All items ship directly from Bonfire

- Order early to wear your gear for Walk For Love in August!

👕 Apparel – T-Shirts, Sweatshirts & Hoodies

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📝 Notebook

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Great for journaling, writing affirmations, or gift-giving.

☕ Mug

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Sip your morning coffee with a message of love and remembrance.

🚶‍♀️ Travel Mug

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Keep your drinks hot or cold while walking for love.

💧 Water Bottle

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Hydration meets heart — perfect for walkers everywhere.

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Perfect for walking during the event or repping all year long.

Mental Health Walkathon to provide encouragement and inspiration for the grieving struggling with depression and isolation.

During the Walkathon, we walk together, united in our mission to support mental health. From August 3 - 9, 2025 we encourage you to walk one mile daily. Share your journey by posting a picture on your favorite social media platform with #WRTWT #WALKFORLOVE, and let’s inspire others to join us.

Funds from the Walkathon will allow Widowhood Real Talk With Tina to conduct an Annual Grief Garden and a Butterfly release ceremony and provide participants journals & pens.

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To Start your pledge team, email widowhoodrealtalk@gmail.com for details.

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