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The Wise Widow: Finding Hope, Healing, And Identity After Losing Your Spouse With Yulonda Hill

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Yulonda Hill | Healing After Loss

  In this heartfelt episode of Widowhood Real Talk with Dr. Tina, Dr. Tina welcomes Yulonda Hurst Hill—speaker, author, storyteller, life coach, and Director of The Widowed Well. Together, they explore the emotional, spiritual, and practical decisions widows face after loss, how to rediscover identity, and what it means to build a meaningful life while honoring the love that came before. Yulonda shares insights from her digital guide, The Wise Widow: The First 7 Decisions After Loss, along with her passion for helping widows heal through storytelling, faith, and legacy. This conversation offers compassionate encouragement, practical guidance, and hope for anyone navigating grief after the death of a spouse. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: Psychology Today Suicide Hotlines and Prevention Resources Around the World. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   The Wise Widow: Finding Hope, Healing, And Identity After Losing Your Spouse With Yulonda Hill What happens when purpose slowly creeps in where all you thought you had was pain? What happens when your pain is so intense and someone thinks that they’re giving you comforting words and all they’re doing is adding to your pain? What happens when your grief shows up in church and you’re not sure if this is the place where you can say it out loud, but your pastor notices what’s going on? This conversation is what we’re going to talk about with Yulonda Hill. Let’s get into the discussion now.     Yulonda, welcome to widowhood. Thank you so much. I’m excited to be here. Thank you for having me and asking me. Redefining Your Space After Sudden Loss You are welcome. When you hear, “Welcome to the widowhood,” what’s the ticker tape in the back of your mind? If someone were to look and say, “Welcome to the widowhood,” what’s in there? Hearing, “Welcome to the widowhood,” is a group that you never necessarily wanted to be in. I had this conversation with someone. This is the person. This is the thing on the other side of the room. Initially, it was rough. Welcoming to widowhood says to me, “Welcome to the other side of what was devastating and what was horrible.” It no longer has that meaning and that connotation behind it. I know it’s to help other people who are going through a dark night of the soul as well because we walk that path. You say walk that path. Let’s begin with your story. Who was Yulonda before widowhood? Who is this incredible man that you shared your life with? Unforeseen Love And Surrendering Control I love to have this conversation about this man anytime I get a chance to talk about him. Yulonda was the person who she knew at twelve years old, she didn’t want to be married. She didn’t want children. She wanted to live in New Zealand. The twelve-year-old, in the seventh grade. Mr. Stuart Nelson asked what we wanted to do. I said, “I want to live in New Zealand, and I want to be the first Supreme Court justice at about 27. When I walk in a room, they’ll say, “There she is.” He said, “Really?” That’s how vivid. It sounds like it could have been a detailed plan, but go ahead. That’s what I wanted. When I was a kid, I never did play with Barbie and Ken. I never did play house. I always thought about what was I going to do to make the world know who I was. Getting married was never in the plan. Having children was never in the plan. I never thought about it. When I met James and we started talking about life with a partner. He said, “Marriage can be beautiful if you have the right person.” I was thinking, “Okay.” She’s not me. The more that I talked with him and one day, I realized that I was in love with him. I did not know that God could love me in such a way that he freed me to relax. He freed me to love. I tell people this when I’m teaching on talking to women about submitting to their husbands. I said, “When the Bible talks about husbands and wives, wives submit to your husband and husbands to love your wife like Christ loved the church. You realize that if I can trust Him the way I can trust him, if He frees me up to love him the way I want to love him.” I got married at 35. I was older when I got married and I had bought my house already. I was paying bills already. I was in a corporate job. I was doing well. Things were great, but then this man. It was amazing. I could not imagine waiting so long after I found out what love could be. We finally got married and it was great. I was looking forward to getting up and cooking. The day after the wedding, I said to my friend, “I can’t wait to cook breakfast for him.” She said, “Is that what you’re looking forward to?” I said, “It is.” This man was amazing. He was brilliant. He was very articulate. He was over this program called SARE, or Sustainable Agriculture and Research Education. He was the director of it. He was over thirteen Southeastern states, Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands. Out of 100% of his job, he traveled for about 70% and he loved it. He loved working and he loved me. That life we had was beautiful. I never thought that we’d be in this place. We’re trying to hear the love story. I want to hear about this story. It takes so long to

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Why Grief Feels So Overwhelming And How To Begin Healing With Dr. Audrey Davidheiser

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Dr. Audrey Davidheiser | Grieving Wholeheartedly

  In this episode of Widowhood Real Talk with Dr. Tina, Dr. Tina welcomes Dr. Audrey Davidheiser, licensed clinical psychologist and author of Grieving Wholeheartedly: Bringing Healing to Every Part of Your Soul. Together, they explore why grief can feel so overwhelming, how emotions deserve compassion rather than suppression, and practical ways widows can begin healing after the death of a spouse. Dr. Audrey combines psychological expertise with a deeply compassionate approach to help grieving people navigate loss with greater understanding and hope. Whether you’re newly widowed, years into your grief journey, or supporting someone through loss, this conversation offers practical insight, emotional validation, and evidence-based tools for moving toward healing one wholehearted step at a time. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others. Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: Psychology Today Suicide Hotlines and Prevention Resources Around the World. — Watch the episode here

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Can Grief Become Your Friend? Finding Hope After Loss With Patricia J. Williams

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Patricia J. Williams | Faith After Loss

  Dr. Tina Fornwald welcomes author, minister, and prophetess Patricia J. Williams to explore faith after loss and navigating the deepest seasons of grief. Walking through devastating bereavement requires immense spiritual strength, community, and trusting that God meets us in our pain. Together, they discuss Patricia’s book, How to Flourish in Spiritual Seasons of Your Life, and how widows can discover renewed hope, healing, and purpose. Patricia’s ministry focuses on helping people experience spiritual freedom and breakthrough through God’s Word. Whether you’re newly widowed, supporting a grieving loved one, or searching for encouragement, this powerful conversation provides practical guidance and biblical wisdom for taking the next step forward. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: Psychology Today Suicide Hotlines and Prevention Resources Around the World. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   Can Grief Become Your Friend? Finding Hope After Loss With Patricia J. Williams Redefining Widowhood And Community Support Our guest is Patricia J. Williams, a minister of the gospel, psalmist, and motivational speaker. She writes to inspire, encourage, and motivate. Let us get into this conversation now. Patricia is going to share with us from her book, How to Flourish in Spiritual Seasons of Your Life.     Patricia, welcome to The Widowhood. Thank you for having me on. When you hear, Welcome to the Widowhood, what is the first thing that comes to mind for you? A deceased spouse. The one who has lost a spouse and they are trying to get more encouragement any way they can. Just forming a group with, per se, other people that are widows as well. You really do not have to be a widow, but just trying to find someone else that will share the same thing. You went through, or that you all happened to go through? I like that you made the point of not having to be a widow. I’m from Chicago, so hood means family to me. Widowhood is that community. Oftentimes, what the widow or widower is missing are the people that were in their community before their spouse died. They need them now more than ever to be entrenched in their life. That’s a worthy conversation. It’s not that you have your spouse’s past, but if this is your family member, your friend, someone that you care about, they are suffering, and they’re needing that community to embrace them Even not a person per se, it could be like a loss of a marriage, a job. Something you were married to, because people are married to their job, their careers. Something can just come in, and just, everything just lost. You just wipe it out. It goes in many forms. That would be the broader scope of grief itself. The widowhood itself would be the direct loss of your spouse. You’re correct that when you think of grief on a broader spectrum, it’s dealing with your own body suffering, having to relocate unexpectedly, problems with your children, loss. The thing that I have seen, and tell me about your experience, people may have some of those lower losses that they may say, “My pet is important,” and then you may have lost the job, your health. The passing of a loved one has a different implication than that of some of these other things because we feel like those are fixable. Those are things that we can adjust, but your child passes, your mom passes, a close cousin or neighbor. Those are not fixable. Learning To Adjust To Life Without Physical Presence They are not fixable because we are learning how to live without them being here. Even though they have passed on, we are trying to adjust how to live without the physical being. Even though we have the memories and everything we used to do with them, we love them unto death. Now we are trying to fix our hearts to say, “They are not here no more.” How do we adjust when we see every little thing, say, like you are in Walmart and you just passed by something they like to eat, and then bam. Here comes the memory again. How do we adjust to that? That’s what we’re going through day by day. How to live without it, without them. I would also add that we love them currently. Oftentimes people go, “loved one,” ED, as if it’s a past tense. Some of the conflict or trauma. We love them currently. The love does not stop because they stop breathing.     It’s just a continuation. It’s just how do we adjust to love them without seeing their physical being? That’s why we have to learn how to get past that stage. As you said, it would never stop. You say we, so that leads me to believe you have a personal experience with grief or someone no longer being here. Would you mind sharing about that? Moving Beyond Titles To Acknowledge Personal Pain I had gone through a season where I lost my mother, my sister, actually two siblings, two first cousins within a three-year span, and my dad too. Me being a minister of the gospel, we tend to always encourage someone else, and we give them like they are in a better place or something like that. I had to learn how to, per se, take off a title and be like, “God, how do I hear?” We have a tight-knit family. I had to learn how to adjust to them leaving me, just going on because I didn’t know how to handle grief because I was in a place where grief wanted to succumb to me. Just wanted me to be in the house, not talk

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The Miracle Of Marrying My Heart: A Journey From Heartbreak To Hope With Susan Peters

Widowhood Real Talk with Tina | Susan Peters | Reconnecting With The Heart

  Imagine being thrown into the depths of grief and coming out the other side with a heart that’s not just healed, but stronger than ever. Today’s guest, Susan Peters, shares her transformative journey from heartbreak to hope. After the sudden loss of her beloved husband, Susan embarked on a path that not only helped her reconnect with her heart but also led her to embrace new dreams and a deeper purpose. In this heartfelt conversation, she shares lessons on how heartbreak can be a gateway to greater strength, resilience, and authenticity. Whether you’re navigating grief or simply seeking a fresh perspective on life’s challenges, Susan’s wisdom and courage will guide you toward embracing your own heart’s journey. Stay tuned for an enlightening discussion on how to transform loss into an opportunity for profound personal growth. I am sharing my experience of loving the same man for 32 years, a mother to two adult children, a retired military officer, a breast cancer survivor, and my connections with others.  Anyone experiencing suicidal thoughts should reach out to a suicide hotline or local emergency number in their country: Psychology Today Suicide Hotlines and Prevention Resources Around the World. — Watch the episode here   Listen to the podcast here   The Miracle Of Marrying My Heart: A Journey From Heartbreak To Hope With Susan Peters Hello, Widowhood. Our guest is Ms. Susan Peters. She is going to share with you from her heart. The lessons that she has learned are going to be vital to your own healing journey. The ability to go from someone who may have been shy to brave, the steps in healing, and the interesting facts of how our heart breaks and light coming in make us stronger. Allow me to share a little bit of Susan’s bio with you. After an unexpected and devastating loss of her beloved husband, John, Susan began a transformational journey of the heart to move through her grief. She discovered how creating new dreams, helping bring her heart back into wholeness, and authentic connections allowed her to embrace the fullness of life. She hopes to inspire others to reconnect more deeply with their own heart and loss, thus giving them a chance to discover their new identity by opening up to the possibilities of new dreams so they will be able to live out their authentic purpose. She is in love with the life she has chosen and truly believes that connecting with the depths of her own heart and each other will transform the world. Let’s get into this conversation, and you can purchase Susan’s book. Hello, Susan. Welcome to the Widowhood. Thanks, Tina. I’m so glad to be here with you. When you hear, “Welcome to the Widowhood,” what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? Reframing Widowhood As Bravery To tell you the truth, when I first heard the term widow, I did not like it at all. If you had said to me, “Welcome to the widowhood,” when I was first in loss, I would have been like, “I don’t like that.” I learned from Emily Tanner in the Brave Widow that widow is a brave word. Widows are brave. Widows step forward. They have to step into a lot of different things that they didn’t want to and didn’t have a choice to. Once she said that, it switched something in my brain to say that being a widow is honorable. It’s not fun, and it’s not where you want to be. You don’t wish it upon anybody, but it’s also honorable. It also gives us a chance to step forward and share with others to see that we can help and support each other through something very difficult, and we can get through it together.     There’s a lot there. Thank you for sharing that. I don’t know anybody who liked hearing the word widow. I remember we were taking care of some paperwork shortly after my husband passed, and the person that I was working with had this big computer screen. They shifted it and said “Marital status” and clicked “Widow.” I don’t know if it had been 48 hours. It felt like somebody had ripped my heart out. It was like, “That’s what I am now.” I wanted to tell him, “Don’t check that,” but he had to. Your brain is just settling. I would agree with the concept of the brave widow. I would also go so far as to say that I believe widows should be celebrated. We completed our marriage vows. The amount of knowledge and wisdom. No matter if the marriage was good or bad, you learn something from sticking to that and could benefit other people who are newly married or maybe have been married for a while. It is difficult. It is sad, but there is something very powerful about who we have become in this process. You talked about the Brave Widow. I think you and Emily’s podcast is going to air very close to each other. Tell us about your connection with Emily in the Brave Widow community.     Emily was on a summit with someone else whom I had become friends with because she was in Canada, and her husband had died. She started creating summits to help people get over their grief. Emily happened to be her guest. I joined in some of her Brave Widow things. One of the very early ones is when she had told me that being a widow is brave. Ever since then, I was like, “I love this woman.” She was the one who gave me my chance to be on my first podcast. She got me started on that. It’s interesting because our story connected between our meetings, and we got to share a lot online and share our stories. Somehow, we connected. She gave me opportunities to step forward. I was grateful for those opportunities to share my voice and to share

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Walk For Love 2025

Support grief awareness and Walk For Love in style. Proceeds help fund free grief support programs. Merchandise is available now, with new batches printing every 15 days — so order early to ensure you receive your items before the August kickoff on August 3,  2025

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Mental Health Walkathon to provide encouragement and inspiration for the grieving struggling with depression and isolation.

During the Walkathon, we walk together, united in our mission to support mental health. From August 3 - 9, 2025 we encourage you to walk one mile daily. Share your journey by posting a picture on your favorite social media platform with #WRTWT #WALKFORLOVE, and let’s inspire others to join us.

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